Another relationship inquiry!

[needtoknow]

I take it the subject has been milked already! I am new to the site, so forgive me if I was not aware of the previous conversations. It just troubles me to see so many couples in that way. Either black men with white women, or black women with white men. I cannot see myself going in that direction. And, I am not a woman of low self-esteem, Phillyman! I just like to know, since the past 30 years have been spent primarily training my children to become the people of God that that are today. God is good, and I did not want to go from divorce to a revolving door in front of them. Now that they are grown and have their own lives, I feel like I can look into what I want for my life as an available, virtuous woman who knows why God created us.

[UglymanCometh]

Bottom line is that the dating game in the black community is aggresively slanted towards tall muscular (or fat) guys with "thug swagger", be it a black frat guy, an executive, an athlete, an actual "thug", etc....

Until that changes, nothing else will.

-The UMC

[robbboy2003]

Originally Posted by needtoknow

I take it the subject has been milked already! I am new to the site, so forgive me if I was not aware of the previous conversations. It just troubles me to see so many couples in that way. Either black men with white women, or black women with white men. I cannot see myself going in that direction. And, I am not a woman of low self-esteem, Phillyman! I just like to know, since the past 30 years have been spent primarily training my children to become the people of God that that are today. God is good, and I did not want to go from divorce to a revolving door in front of them. Now that they are grown and have their own lives, I feel like I can look into what I want for my life as an available, virtuous woman who knows why God created us.

I can definitely respect the fact,that you didn't have a bunch of guys over,while you're raising kids. If you are what you say,have patience sista go where decent men are. Brotha's are still in church,they're still in boys and girls clubs,and still volunteering themselves for worthy causes.

The cream rises and a soulmate will step to you. Give it time,and get yourself together.

Peace! :)

Originally Posted by needtoknow

Wow! That was an amazing truth put into words! Thank you for that! I'm not desperate, just going through a particular issue with a man who is indebted to a woman who took care of him, literally, like a mother hen. He loves me, but is indebted to her due to her constantly helping in huge ways, with money to get him out when his family could not, providing cell phone, car, house to live in. Anyway, it has been a long since I have even spoken to another interesting man. I know I will be fine, it just takes more time, for the true mate that God will bring will surface without hesitating! I will wait on the Lord! Thank you, again!

I assumed in the previous thread you created that you were the "loved woman".

Sistah you've gotta start at the head then move to the tail. Get rid of this...boy your dealing with as jfp said. Re-read what I said of all involved in your previous thread. Rid yourself of this vermin and then start your quest anew the right way.

Once that's done n' you still feel the need to know why black men seem to go after white women then peruse these various articles found here in the afrochat archives. I haven't read either of the aforementioned articles so I can't say if I agree or disagree with either, nor am I promoting what either of them is saying. But maybe you can find your answers there, maybe not.

Good luck.

[jamesfrmphilly]

sorry, you cannot have self esteem and yet be dealing with a parasite. it is one or the other, make your choice.
know that while you are dealing with a parasite you will not be able to relate to a good man.

[needtoknow]

Thank you, all, for your input! Phillyman, I do realize who I am, and whose I am. God created me in His image, and likeness. Therefore, that makes me capable of talking to a GOOD man! Know that! Peace to you, brother!

Originally Posted by UglymanCometh

Bottom line is that the dating game in the black community is aggresively slanted towards tall muscular (or fat) guys with "thug swagger", be it a black frat guy, an executive, an athlete, an actual "thug", etc....

Until that changes, nothing else will.

-The UMC

Hey, why do you title yourself to be the 'u' word? God did not create anyone to be that, His ways are perfect, and he created you. As I stated earlier, my father was quite articulate, and that is what I like in a black man. I am not into the 'thug' base. God bless all of you for your candor. I really appreciate you welcoming me into the chat room! Much love!

[jamesfrmphilly]

Originally Posted by needtoknow

Phillyman, I do realize who I am, and whose I am. God created me in His image, and likeness. Therefore, that makes me capable of talking to a GOOD man! Know that! Peace to you, brother!

FWIW - i am a real good black man. mature and accomplished. you seem to have a problem talking with me, don't you? i am telling you what you need to hear. no good black man is going to want to hear what you are putting down right now. with all the sisters out there to chose from we got no reason to deal with somebody who got a parasite and stays in denial. my words may not be sweet to your ears but everyone here is telling you the same thing.
get rid of your parasites and clean up your act.

[needtoknow]

Okay, Mr. Phillyman! Point well taken. I don't have a man right now, but I am determined to be what God intended me to be, which is a VIRTUOUS woman, not an idiot, for THAT MAN that God himself will place in my life. I was very grateful to everyone for their input, if you recall. Just because I was asking questions, does not constitute me to be part of a mindless entity. Now, please, may God continue to bless you and yours in your endeavors. Everyone else who have spoken very candidly regarding my inquiries, thank you, again, and continued blessiings to you all! I will forever appreciate the poem from yesterday relating to women in waiting. You are a very talented sect. Peace!

Originally Posted by XenOcidE

I assumed in the previous thread you created that you were the "loved woman".

Sistah you've gotta start at the head then move to the tail. Get rid of this...boy your dealing with as jfp said. Re-read what I said of all involved in your previous thread. Rid yourself of this vermin and then start your quest anew the right way.

Once that's done n' you still feel the need to know why black men seem to go after white women then peruse these various articles found here in the afrochat archives. I haven't read either of the aforementioned articles so I can't say if I agree or disagree with either, nor am I promoting what either of them is saying. But maybe you can find your answers there, maybe not.

Good luck.

Thank you, again, Xenocide! It was just another question. I work with several female singles, who have asked the same question, and I thought I would mention it here. However, since I am new to this site, I was not aware that the discussion was brought to the attention of the site people several times. Anyway, I appreciated what you said the other day regarding my initial question. I was making a final decision then, and the information discussed here really clinched it for me. Now I am in a position to wait on the Lord to put the man he has for me in me way. In the meantime, thank you for welcoming me to the page, and God bless you and yours! Peace!

Originally Posted by Proudbrothaman

hasn't this topic been covered like 20 times????/?

Die subject, DIIIEEE!!!!!!

[needtoknow]

Yay! On with life!