Spouse with Erectile Dysfunction

[LadyDivine]

Would you leave him or would you cheat on him and stay?

[MissDD138]

Michael Baisden had this topic on his show, & people gave very honest answers. Honestly, I want to say he's my husband, I married him for better or WORSE, SICKNESS & health, therefore, me, him & the LORD would endure it together.

I know this sounds like a fantasy, But I believe when GOD sends my husband, I will love him (him me) this much.

[robbboy2003]

Originally Posted by LadyDivine

Would you leave him or would you cheat on him and stay?

What equates with this similarly in women libido loss? Yes, I would stand by her with needed accesseries as needed,tapes books, lubes.

[ImaJon]

Regardless of what some may say some relationships may be built but will not last on sex alone. Cheating only brings more problems leaving makes a weak excuse to end all.

[Sumyr]

Whoa, LadyD, this a tough one as there is no clear cut answer. Unless you have experienced this in your marriage yourself, it isn’t easy to say what you would/wouldn’t do. The good Christian side of all of us would say they would love him the same or stay and not cheat. But the harsh reality is a lot of marriages suffer from this, mine being one of them, and most don’t make it through.

Since we are all adults, I’ll be as candid as possible in hopes my honesty will shed light into both sides of the problem. Without giving you my life story, my ex-husband’s problem was that he could achieve an erection, but couldn’t maintain one from start to finish. At first we thought it was stress, work, and other factions in life. So, we made lifestyle adjustments only to have the problem eventually get worse – with time. Of course there were times he would be like the rock of Gibraltar. Other times he was like cotton no matter what was done.

Bottom line it did wreck havoc on our marriage, but I surely didn’t leave him because of it. I being one that absolutely loves sex - imagine my dismay once we found out our sex life would be forever altered. But I never once made him feel as though he was inadequate because of it and reassured him that he was still a man regardless – even though I was suffering on the inside. But it is what good wives do. Even this very day he still doesn’t know I was suffering sexually although we have been divorced for a few years. We had a terrible divorce, but I just didn’t feel the need to have to belittle him in this way so I kept this little tad bit of information to myself.

A woman with a lesser libido may be a little more enduring though. Some women don’t care for sex and there are some that don’t even want sex. These types of women are much more tolerable.

I said all of that to say it takes a very, very strong woman to stay and even if you decided to leave no one would truly understand unless they have gone through it themselves.

[MzKwietStorm]

Personally, I would stay with him. I take my vows very seriously and I didn't make a promise to just my husband, I made a promise to the man upstairs as well.

[urfan2c]

No leaving and no cheating. We'd find a way to get done what needs to be done. And that is a small part of the marriage and not the most important part. I'm sure it's more of a problem for the male in itself that he can't please his wife. I'd stand by his side if he was a good man.

[saraphen]

You stay, and you go with him to the doctor to determine if any of those ED drugs are appropriate for him.

[LadyDivine]

Thanks for all the candid answers. I have a girlfriend who is cheating on her husband because of this problem and he cannot take the ED drugs.

My husband was 14 years older than I was and we had a slight problem but he was able to take the ED drugs and we had a normal sex life. I went into the marriage knowing that he was much older and I was ready to deal with that situation.

Loss libido for women and ED for men are a part of life which will alter the intimacy as you get older it has to be discussed.

[Samoon]

"Me no leave. Me no cheat." Cheating further exacerbates problems and leaving only indicates (IMO) that one was not in it for the long haul.