Do You Allow Your S/O To Breathe?

[Yewmanyeti]

I don't wanna be redundant, so I'ma just say I agree with almost everybody here, especially Man in Minnesota. One thing I am NOT is a smotherer and I refuse to be that way.

[Curious1]

I don't smother and I am not a full fledged "jealous" type with mine..But I do keep my eyes and ears open..Mine is very Handsome and most women's "dream" ..He's tall,Dark and Handsome and a BMW..Black Man Working" and holding it down.College,street and book educated..Can speak standard English and Blanglish (Black English) Can be dressed up or down..and still look " Decent and Attractive.." Pretty much polite and considerate,very popular and will give you the shirt off his back...

He, of course, has character flaws...but his good out weigh the irritating..lol..He has been and still is a Hot Commodity in terms of what any woman would love in a man...Rare Breed..oh,and he loves his mom and my grandmom's.Mom's in general, very respectful...Carries himself like a Man..

Yeah...I keep my eye out. .I don't say jealous..I may be a little "territorial" is all. :whistling ..lol.

Curious1 :weight_li

[Samoon]

Smothering is not something that is active in our relationship. We both have very demainding and sometimes hectic jobs, active in community church and civic circles so it has never been a problem for us. In fact, when we first began dating, we laughed about how comftable we were with one another even though "hit or miss" could carry over from one week to the next. We both focus on continual evolving and growth in our relationship but always cognizant of one another's individuality. It balances itself out.

[Chelbe]

I do and maybe its for my own selfish reasons. I am the kind of person who needs to be left alone at times and I need to breathe, so if I'm saying that I'm doing it for him, it very well may be for myself.

[DBlack]

I've never been the clingy type. So much to the point many women in my past hated that about me.

[Kokonsa Hene]

To respond to the original question, who needs somebody watching over them 24/7? At the root of all that is critical mass of insecurity, jealous and self loathe. If feelings of insecurities arises in you then its probably time to take critical look at yourself cos most of the time, its one's way of saying, " i'm not worthy of you, i ****** up and i think you are ******* up too, or i've just lost my mojo and i need you to tell me otherwise, etc."

It behooves you to at least trust your partner to do the right thing. If you dont have that then its probably time to call it quits but not before seeking counselling or therapy or whatever they call it......

As u can see, we can go on and on till........but there's more to life than just insecured bastards and bitches so i'm gon leave it at that and hope ppl catch the drift.....ITS NOT ABOUT HER OR HIM, ITS ALL ABOUT YOU! ITS JUST A PROJECTION OF ONE'S OWN IMPERFECTIONS.

[Proudbrothaman]

Although people in relationships are busy trying to help that relationship grow and prosper, they can't forget that their S/O has to grow and prosper within themselves. Personal growth can't be achieved with someone breathing down their neck 24/7. What will grow is a feeling of resentment for that person. Two adults are just that..ADULTS, they deserve their personal space and time. If you can't trust your S/O to leave and come back to MAMI or PAPI as clean as they left then you have to take a look inside and sort out your own issues, instead of forcing them on your mate. Smothering someone or trying to control them means that person isn't ready to be in a relationship.

[Jackson]

I treat my woman in the same manner that i would like to be treated. I enjoy my space, she is free to enjoy hers.

[bibadiva73]

Before we were married, my husband had lunch with his ex and at first I thought it was weird, but I allowed myself to be ok with it. He assured me there was nothing between them and things ended so badly, he was glad to be rid of her. He goes out with his friends occassionally and he is away on business alot. I think that trust is a huge part of a relationship, but if you have been lied to in the past by previous people, it is difficult to "let them breathe" Claustrophobic relationships stem from old wounds and insecurity from what others have done to you.

[anni1]

Well TRUST is a big issue ,Sometimes i think because i was fooled before i font trust anyone fully , But i know also that my man needs time alone and i give it to him but i never let him go to far ,,, I am been unrealistic?
Ann