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LadyDivine · November 20th, 2006, 07:31 PM

I had a fight with my man and he is not taking my calls.

*sniff* :(
Talk to me AFROfamily.............before I go and do something stupid or maybe not so stupid, like go out with this FIONE cutiepie for his birthday, who is 7 yrs younger who has been asking me out for a year.

I am really hurt. I caught him in a lie.
He avoided my calls for one week and then when I finally got through to him, he did not want to talk to me and I said "NOT EVER want to talk" and he said "NO NOT RIGHT NOW" but it has been a week and he has not called.

SHOULD I JUST MOVE ON? :(

JamieC · November 20th, 2006, 07:38 PM

He's probably kicking himself. Give him time, hopefully he'll come around and realize the mistake he's made.

saraphen · November 20th, 2006, 08:12 PM

Here's a hug for you.

Give him time.

November 20th, 2006, 09:55 PM

Sorry to hear of your relationship woes LadyD. Hopefully everything will work out.

darkreign · November 20th, 2006, 10:25 PM

what was the lie?, and how did you confront him with it?

i'm sorry to see you broken up over this. but here is something to think about.

why is it so easy (assuming) for him to have no contact with you?

or is this love thang only one way?

LadyDivine · November 21st, 2006, 12:31 AM

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Originally Posted by darkreign

what was the lie?, and how did you confront him with it?

i'm sorry to see you broken up over this. but here is something to think about.

why is it so easy (assuming) for him to have no contact with you?

or is this love thang only one way?

Good point brother.........obviously there was a one way shift in the relationship that I missed along the way since he refuses to talk. :( :(

You do not build relationships withdrawing you only end relationships by withdrawing and putting distance between you. I have pretty much conceded that it is over and the less than truthfulness was just the exit door. :( :(

BTW.....I have had a few "Anonymous phone numbers" pop up on my cell and work phones with no messages.

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THANKS MY SISTERS FOR REPLYING... ((((HUGGING))))

Of course I am still holding on to the hope that he is kicking hisself and trying to figure out a way to say he is sorry, but I ain't no dummy.

urfan2c · November 21st, 2006, 02:08 AM

I like communication, but sometimes I need a breather and everybody doesn't have the same time frame. I know what that silent period is like...every hour seems longer. (((hugs))) it'll get better just don't do anything you'll regret or that he can use as leverage. xoxoxo

robbboy2003 · November 21st, 2006, 02:18 AM

Here's brotherly love to ya sis with a big ole hug!

Hope he gets it right! :)

Proudbrothaman · November 21st, 2006, 07:55 AM

My question is why is this other dude still asking you out when you have a man? Maybe I'm the only one but when a woman goes there with me I shut it down quickly. I let it be known that I'm not interested and respectfully not to go there again. As for your man, men are alot more complicated then advertised; it could be multiple things going on with him that have nothing to do with the opposite sex. Give him time and don't blow the brotha up, let him get back to you. One week?!!?? That's nothing for a man! I don't know what the fight was over but for a man to just up and leave like that I'm guessing it was serious. Maybe not to you but "Man" serious.

Sumyr · November 21st, 2006, 09:58 AM

LadyD - I am adding my response without reading any prior responses. So, what I say may have already been posted. (Been really busy lately and haven't had much time to read/post replies. But I shall return. :) )

Keep your head up LadyD and remain faithful and true - to yourself. Seeming since it was you that caught "him" in a lie - he should be calling you. But that's only in a perfect world. If you truly love him, I would call him - at least one more time - remember real love in unconditional and "forgiving". But if he is unresponsive again - I would move on. Hope everything works out. :)