Question for the men - AfroChat - African American

MzKwietStorm · October 30th, 2006, 09:28 AM

Todays question was: Men, do you feel as though you should have to pay all the time on dates? There were some pretty interesting responses on the radio today, so I'm eager to hear what you guys have to say. IMHO, if it's a first date, I say let's go dutch. That way you can get a feel for the person and if it doesn't work out, no one will feel "obligated" to do anything because you paid for your own meal.

DBlack · October 30th, 2006, 11:05 AM

Absolutely not. Every date and relationship is different, but all things being equal, there's no reason why the man or woman should have to always pay.

October 30th, 2006, 12:05 PM

First date I'd not mind pickin' up the tab. I don't like the notion that men are always supposed to pay however. It's a relationship n' everything should be 50/50. Why shouldn't she take me out sometimes? Because I'm a man?

charliekilothree · October 30th, 2006, 12:58 PM

What them said. I don't mind paying most of the time but should not be expected to pay every time. It's not like I'm rich or anything.

jamesfrmphilly · October 30th, 2006, 04:14 PM

i'm olde school. i'll pay for the date (and then i expect hot sex afterwards)........ :whistling

RaInEdomThoughtz · October 30th, 2006, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by jamesfrmphilly

i'm olde school. i'll pay for the date (and then i expect hot sex afterwards)........ :whistling

It figures.

robbboy2003 · October 30th, 2006, 11:40 PM

if,i happen to be strapped for some cash,you best believe girlfriend best sprang for the check sometime! :)

darkreign · October 31st, 2006, 01:14 AM

i hate to be a follower but, yeah... what D and cke3 said.... i think women want men to hold on to those old cavalier ways when it comes to certain things but at other times they cry "i am woman,her me roar" and you will treat and see me as your equal. well if thats the case...you can also pay the check...just like a man.:)

MrAtlanta · October 31st, 2006, 02:19 AM

I feel obligated to pay for a dinner and a movie.

It seems unmanly to have a woman pay for MY meal and MY movie ticket. If it's my birthday or some other special occasion, then I suppose it's alright for her to treat.

October 31st, 2006, 07:18 AM

I agree with MrATL. I'm old fashion on this subject too. If she offers to pay and I feel that financially I'll be the better for it if she does, well then I won't refuse her. But more often than not I'd pick up the check just cuz I don't think a woman should HAVE to do it. When a woman spends money on me I prefer it to be on special items or some special outing that I have no input on, you know like a surprise concert or something. The little every day things like dinner and a movie and the like, that's mostly from my pocket.