That's it. IT'S OFFICIAL. I've given up on Sistas........ - AfroChat - African American

daheel · May 9th, 2006, 12:08 AM

I'm done with the drama and having black women look down on me..................

In 20 years flat, we have gone from the most stable family environment in the world to the worst in the US.

I'm not blaming it all on sistas, and I praise them for their successes, accomplishments, drive, and independence............but...........

............i'm not playing the head games anymore.

I'm looking for someone with inner substance, and not just a high credit rating. Hell, she could be Mongolian for all I care.

I wish sistas well, and I hope you remember the lessons you taught men for so long about what love is, what it means, and how to give it.

Until then, I will stay out or your way.

May 9th, 2006, 12:39 AM

I'm only going to comment here cuz I'm bored. My sister and I had a conversation about this the other day. She's just coming out of a relationship and she was telling me that she had actually contemplated not being with another Black man. She was totally off of us cuz she was sick of the dumb stuff. Sick of the games and the stupidity. She said she was serious too, that from this point on it was going to be all about white men and hispanic men and Italian men. (Don't remember her saying anything about Asian men though.) Black men need not apply. But she told me that she finally had to snap out of that and not fall into that negative mindset. She was smart enough to recognize that games and negativity in relationships are rampant in any racial group, not just us. So what kind of sense does it make to run from the problems of your own and deal with the problems of others? It doesn't so she put that decision to death.

I have had my share of negative Black women. No one likes being f***ed over in any relationship and I am no exception. But I've worked with white females before and one thing about white folks in general, THEY LOVE TO RUN THEIR MOUTHS! Oh my lawd, them folks can talk and they tell ALL their business. I'm like do you realize you at work? How can you just feel so comfortable coming to work telling all yo business? I keep a lid on most of my ish even when it comes to family, I can't imagine going to work and telling it all. Geez. But anyway, my point is in listening to them I get an un-media influenced view of what white people's relationships are like. Guess what? IT AIN'T PRETTY. I don't hear anyone being treated like princesses or treating their men like kings. Games are played, faithfulness is something rare. And when they seem as if they are admiring Black men, it's never for the real positiveness that we can bring to a relationship. They are all about wanting to know if it's true if we're well endowed or great in bed or what it's like to be with a drug dealer or someone from the hood. And I'm supposed to run away from Black women to get with that??? Please.

Bruh, if you gonna crossover be my guest. Hope you find whatever it is you looking for.

thinkslow · May 9th, 2006, 03:58 AM

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Originally Posted by daheel

I'm done with the drama and having black women look down on me..................

In 20 years flat, we have gone from the most stable family environment in the world to the worst in the US.

I'm not blaming it all on sistas, and I praise them for their successes, accomplishments, drive, and independence............but...........

............i'm not playing the head games anymore.

I'm looking for someone with inner substance, and not just a high credit rating. Hell, she could be Mongolian for all I care.

I wish sistas well, and I hope you remember the lessons you taught men for so long about what love is, what it means, and how to give it.

Until then, I will stay out or your way.

^^ Peace

Proudbrothaman · May 9th, 2006, 05:42 AM

I can't believe you actually put this post out there. You really believe it's just sistas with drama.....? We all have drama, I don't care who says their drama free. Who said you got yo ish together? For all we know you could be the problem, as a matter of fact I would like to hear your version of what a relationship should be like. I'm a very strong advocate for my sistas and will protect them when their right.

Jackson · May 9th, 2006, 06:39 AM

A negative frame of mind is a magnet for unsavoury experiences. If you are going to give up on all black women, that means that it is time for you to ask yourself what it is about you, which draws such horrible women to your side. Chances are that the unresolved problematic issue which lies within you as an individual will ensure that when you start dating non black women, the grass on the other side will not be any greener. There is no way that all black women can be wrong and you alone can be right. Just think about that for a moment.

shankems2000 · May 9th, 2006, 07:34 AM

They're not all alike. But if you feel that it's time to branch out and try something different, like interracial dating for instance, then by all means, enjoy.

charliekilothree · May 9th, 2006, 07:35 AM

All I can say is if you give up on black women you might as well give up on yourself. I wish you well.

jamesfrmphilly · May 9th, 2006, 08:20 AM

there are a bunch of very bad black women. there are also a few wonderful ones. you need to find how to locate and attract one of the good ones. it may take some effort, but it is worth it.

robbboy2003 · May 9th, 2006, 11:56 AM

If you are a young person,I think there are enough relationship threads on this site that can school you,if you can read and use discernment. If you have no sense are an old fool who does not learn from other peoples mistakes; let alone your own. You might want to check up on yourself,before you run down intelligent Black women!

Lets state the obvious to receive and give love you have to really try. Sometimes black womens love does not hit you like the media depicts it. It gets better and better with time,but you will never know this by bailing at the first sign of "T." Would you really care about someone so shakey? It is no shame to be disillusioned,but it is a crime to paint all sista's with the same broad stroke!

Peace out Brother!

Baba Ahmed · May 9th, 2006, 03:30 PM

bcause u claim to be only 20, I'll tone down what's really in my heart to say to u. If u were one of my sons I'd say it (while wondering: damn, what'd me wife & I say, do or not do).

In other words yungBlood, take a piercing look into your mirror and speak with some of your elders AND LISTEN to what they suggest.

Always remember, if its true: is your mama Black?