Are Black women too independent???

[Nudimmud9]

Originally Posted by jamesfrmphilly

so far, i haven't met the sister who would not trade that independence for a big , sweet dyck........

Very funny and I must concur Mr. philly.

AT ANY RATE..........

Being independent could be compared to knowing who you are within the relationship and without that relationship. This is because you know who you are before it.

In other words you always maintain your own identity no matter what. NO ONE COMPLETES YOU; YOU COME TO THE REALTIONSHIP COMPLETE WITHIN YOURSELF.

You enhance the other individual’s completion within self by being who you are as well. In being with knowledge of self in this way, you greatly minimize the possibility that you'll attract someone who's NOT vibrating at the same level you are intellectually, spiritually, physically or psychologically.

To take from old commerce language, YOU ARE SQUARED WITH ONE ANOTHER; you're on the same page so to speak. And because of the foundation necessary to arrive at this beginning point, you're almost insured continued continuity within the relationship with one another. In short, while there are problems with every relationship, because your individual foundations are similar (i.e. on the same page) both of you will MOST LIKELY stay on the same page through out the duration of time you’re together.

At any rate, this is my interpretation of being psuedo-independent. I say pseudo-independent because much like Jamesfrmphilly said in another post, "WE ARE SOCIAL CREATURES BY NATURE." There is security in numbers and always will be. This is a fact of our human form whether it's considered bad or good.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by chill67

I must say that I'm an independent woman, however I am independent because of how I was raised and because of the women and men that contributed to my upbringing. It has nothing to do with my education, my salary, or what I have purchased or able to purchase.

Because I am independent, I am able to work with and without my husband. Meaning when he is available, I depend on him and when he is not, I depend on myself and vice versa. At the end of the day, I have my say, but my husband has the final word and I support that. Now if his final word is wrong, I'm there to remind him of that, but not in the presence of others as I wouldn't appreciate that being done to me.

Well Said Chill67!

Can we sum up this discussion by saying that our lovely Sistah, Jill Scott say's it best on her cut: The Fact Is (I Need You), off her Beautifully Human: Words and Sounds, Vol. 2 c.d.?

[m2cents]

Originally Posted by chill67

Or is there such a thing?

Some women can be so independent that there's no room for a relationship with a man . . . . not in the traditional sense . .

Some men like independent women . . . to a point . . . or do you?

Then some like the "take charge" woman or the "bread-winner" . . .

Do independent women know how to be wives and "take care" of their man?


I must say that I'm an independent woman, however I am independent because of how I was raised and because of the women and men that contributed to my upbringing. It has nothing to do with my education, my salary, or what I have purchased or able to purchase.

Because I am independent, I am able to work with and without my husband. Meaning when he is available, I depend on him and when he is not, I depend on myself and vice versa. At the end of the day, I have my say, but my husband has the final word and I support that. Now if his final word is wrong, I'm there to remind him of that, but not in the presence of others as I wouldn't appreciate that being done to me.

it depends on what their idea of independence is.if it means that you have a good job,your own place and a fancy car and therefore think you no longer need a man,then it's not really independence but fantasy.i would assume when you hit age 45 and you are still single that you'll turn to your fancy car or luxury home for companionship.most black women are known to adopt that attitude towards men once they've gotten their lives together.