Mom & Dad, I'm Gay...

[000HONEY]

Thank you all for your replies:)

[DBlack]

No, thank you for starting an excellent thread.

[slickbitty]

Originally Posted by dBlack

Parents with no backbone aren't parenting.

Is that harsh? Yes, it is. But parents should be courageous enough to love thier kids but be consistent in their stance on issues. The modern day school of parenting believes unconditional love translates into accepting and allowing your children to do anything they want just to gain and maintain their acceptance.

Originally Posted by dBlack

And just becaue your kids are grown, doesn't mean you can stop wanting what you as a parent know what is morally and spiritually right.

Originally Posted by dBlack

And if you are shaking your head thinking "Dblack is straight trippin,..."

Originally Posted by dBlack

Open your bible, or whatever spiritual foundation in which you were raised, and that should put you back on the proper path.

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if my child came home and told me they were gay, i would be just fine, could they bring their boyfriend or girlfriend over yes could they go into the room and shut the door no but i wouldnt do that if they were straight either. As far as religion goes i choose to stop at the ten commandments and that is it, i think the mysteries of life are too important to trust a translated and interpreted book.

[Intelligent_One]

Originally Posted by Man_in_Minnesota

if my child came home and told me they were gay, i would be just fine, could they bring their boyfriend or girlfriend over yes could they go into the room and shut the door no but i wouldnt do that if they were straight either. As far as religion goes i choose to stop at the ten commandments and that is it, i think the mysteries of life are too important to trust a translated and interpreted book.

Your post mirrors how I feel. I'm too respectful to comment on other people's post in which they expressed how their religion has impacted their response... :) ;)

[Sundiata]

Without fear of being the intolerant voice, I say: Hell no, I wouldn't accept it. My daughter leading an Europeanized distorted view of sexuality is totally unacceptable to me. As the years go by, we as Black people are becoming more and more accepting of their culture.

[naskiecenye]

Love your child no matter what they are............ I would

Originally Posted by DBlack

I would always love my child unconditionally, and always support her. Whould I disown my child? Of course not! But I would not do anything to condone what I know is an totally unacceptible choice in morality. For example, would I allow her 'mate' to come into my house? NO! Matter of Fact, Hell NO! Would it cause a division between us? Probably. But my kid will understand that dad is a person of unyielding conviction. Parents with no backbone aren't parenting.

Is that harsh? Yes, it is. But parents should be courageous enough to love thier kids but be consistent in their stance on issues. The modern day school of parenting believes unconditional love translates into accepting and allowing your children to do anything they want just to gain and maintain their acceptance. But what about your adult children wanting to maintain the approval of the parents? This used to be valued. There used to be a time where a parents kids would never even think of doing something that would hurt, harm, embarrass, or spit in the face of how they were raised. Parents that play the game of popularity and acceptance.....that's not parenting, that's trying to get along and be popular. And just becaue your kids are grown, doesn't mean you can stop wanting what you as a parent know what is morally and spiritually right.

And if you are shaking your head thinking "Dblack is straight trippin,..."
Open your bible, or whatever spiritual foundation in which you were raised, and that should put you back on the proper path.

I am with you on this one.

[Samoon]

Originally Posted by DBlack

I would always love my child unconditionally, and always support her. Whould I disown my child? Of course not! But I would not do anything to condone what I know is an totally unacceptible choice in morality. For example, would I allow her 'mate' to come into my house? NO! Matter of Fact, Hell NO! Would it cause a division between us? Probably. But my kid will understand that dad is a person of unyielding conviction. Parents with no backbone aren't parenting.

Is that harsh? Yes, it is. But parents should be courageous enough to love thier kids but be consistent in their stance on issues. The modern day school of parenting believes unconditional love translates into accepting and allowing your children to do anything they want just to gain and maintain their acceptance. But what about your adult children wanting to maintain the approval of the parents? This used to be valued. There used to be a time where a parents kids would never even think of doing something that would hurt, harm, embarrass, or spit in the face of how they were raised. Parents that play the game of popularity and acceptance.....that's not parenting, that's trying to get along and be popular. And just becaue your kids are grown, doesn't mean you can stop wanting what you as a parent know what is morally and spiritually right.

And if you are shaking your head thinking "Dblack is straight trippin,..."
Open your bible, or whatever spiritual foundation in which you were raised, and that should put you back on the proper path.

Agreed. You've said it all.

[Rashid]

Originally Posted by blackvoter

I don't think I would just say "ok" like everything is fine. I would have to talk to her/him and ask them how they came to this conclusion, what experiences, what feelings. They could be getting emotions of admiration or sisterhood/brotherhood twisted with feelings of lust and sexual attraction. You can admire people of the same sex without going there. With to many young girls these days it is consider envogue to be gay or bi. If talking to them at length isn't enough them I would pray for them day and night until that spirit of homosexuality was cast out. If you believe in Christ then you know it is more than reputations at stake, damn what people would say, I'd be worried about my babies soul.

I'm sure that if prayer could change homosexuality, there would be a lot less gay people in the world, don't you think? It's not like NO parent has EVER prayed for their child to be straight -- it happens all the time. It just doesn't work. It's not a testament to how strong their faith is. Faith has nothing to do with it.