absent fathers!

[shephrenology]

Originally Posted by notiq

If your father came back into your life would you want contact with him? Would you want your children to have contact with him?

Why do you think so many are falling prey to this Absent Father syndrome?

first there wont be any coming back cuz he wasnt there from start.
thats not my job to contact him.and if i had kids, no i wouldnt want my kids to have contact .i think he made up his mine when he had another baby and decieded to take care of that one.

Why do you think so many are falling prey to this Absent Father syndrome?

because their pu*sy as* lil boys. how can a REAL MAN live up to know he left his kid. u should get on some moms.

Originally Posted by lizaa

IF the absent father is a child molester, or someone who can't control his self and is involved in drugs [ you get the picture..]why would he want to be in anyone's life until AFTER he straightens himself up !!

If the absent father has no emotion at all regarding their child-why put the child thru that ? There are so many men that have picked up the slack where other men have failed as fathers ..it's a sad reality but at least there are strong men out there that has love for the woman and child.

both of my parent are drug addicts, but he was recreational user.there's no excuse i would die before i have a kid and not take care of it. including, the dad MUST be there.

[RealTalk3000]

It will be very hard for me to allow my dad into my life again because he missed out on seeing his son become a man.

[Glow]

Some absent dads always seem to come back when they are on their death beds or need a kidney.

I think it's never too late to let them back into your life (if you gone w/o a dad). Because it actually may be good for both parties.

[shephrenology]

Originally Posted by Glow

Some absent dads always seem to come back when they are on their death beds or need a kidney.

I think it's never too late to let them back into your life (if you gone w/o a dad). Because it actually may be good for both parties.

fu*k that. let em die

[Glow]

Originally Posted by shephrenology

fu*k that. let em die

Aw, be nice, why don't you?

[shephrenology]

Originally Posted by Glow

Aw, be nice, why don't you?

k,sorry

[SistahSpeak]

Originally Posted by notiq

If your father came back into your life would you want contact with him? Would you want your children to have contact with him?

Why do you think so many are falling prey to this Absent Father syndrome?

If my father was absent, and he came back, I would definitely welcome him. I'm sure it wouldn't be all rosey, but I would definitely want to know who's Blood runs through my veins. And with that same thought, I would want my children, his Grandchildren to meet, get to know, and develop a relationship.

What's so said is that for many of us, who have fathers, the bonds are not as strong as they could be...

Why are so many falling prey to the Absent Father Syndrome? Geesh, that's a BIG question... so big that could be a thread of it's own. There are many factors that contribute to AFS. From premarital sex, to high divorce rates, drugs and economic factors... these all contribute to AFS directly or indirectly.

Having both a mother and father is what God intended. While I believe we can turn out ok with having only one, I believe that we can only have it better if we are able to benefit from two parents.

I think our race would be in a completely different place if we had more 2-parent households. I still believe it is possible...

[trinigirl]

Originally Posted by shephrenology

first there wont be any coming back cuz he wasnt there from start.

Shephre. sis i feel what you are saying. But it is self same denial that started the problem.
Beloved it is because HE was there YOU are here. I am sure it was not the immaculate conception.
And we must always be greatful to the almighty for our parents regardless to who or what they are all scriptures speak to our blessings when we honour our parents.
THEY will be judged on their deeds and WE on ours.
I pray this is taken in the spirit it is given my sis and to all who harbour ill feelings towards their parents.
Peace

[shephrenology]

Originally Posted by trinigirl

Shephre. sis i feel what you are saying. But it is self same denial that started the problem.
Beloved it is because HE was there YOU are here. I am sure it was not the immaculate conception.
And we must always be greatful to the almighty for our parents regardless to who or what they are all scriptures speak to our blessings when we honour our parents.
THEY will be judged on their deeds and WE on ours.
I pray this is taken in the spirit it is given my sis and to all who harbour ill feelings towards their parents.
Peace

thankyou but,
im not going to honour no druggies.honour parents? that should be vise versa.

[AdriansMommy]

My father was gone at an early age in my life. He left when I was 3. I love him so much. When I was 6 he started to write me letters and we were pen pals. He sent me a letter saying he was coming to see me and I was sooo excited. It felt like he was never gone, but it really hurt when he left again. When he moved to town I loved being with him and spending time with him, but then I eventually took him for granted.

NO matter the circumstances he's my father. My son's father is absent, but his Daddy (my husband) is not. If my son wants to know his dad, I cant keep him from wanting to do so, thats a part of who he is. Or, if his dad wants to see his son, at the same time I am not gonna stop him from doing so, but there will be boundaries. He knows where to find us.

Im not sure how so many of us have fallen prey to this syndrom. I do know that it can be healed, and loving relationships can grow out of the experience.