Proper Age!!!

[sunnyyy]

What is a proper age for you to start talking to your child about sex :( Should you just wait until they start asking questions or should you just sit them down?

[Blak]

I dont know...but you are doing good by planning to do this. My parents simply left us with a couple books to get the knowledge....I dont know about my syblings, but I never had any talk. Maybe the best thing is to start when they get curious and let them know they can always come to you about it without worrying....dont want them learning the foolishness kids talk in the school yard (all those hillarious rumours and myths).

Blak

[sunnyyy]

Thats true Blak, my mother really never sat me down and talked to me about it, I learned in sex ed class, but I wasn't very curious about sex I really never asked any questions about it, or really could careless back than :D .until I was in high school thats when I started to look at boys...lol... and by than I really knew everything.....

[JamieC]

Good question. I think age 9 is ok.

[Chelbe]

This is a good question. I didn't have a sex talk, well I kinda did, if that's what she calls it. I was told, "don't bring no babies in this house" and I didn't bring no babies in the house.
Things like reasons not to have sex, reasons to have sex, using protection and consequences were not told to me.
Now, whether to wait for them to come to me or to just sit them down, I'm not sure of. I'm leaning towards just sitting my child down, because I don't want to take the chance of my child listening to friends or miscellaneous people and not coming to me.
I think I will bring up the discussion first, atleast to let my child know its ok to talk about any feeling they are having about sex.

[Nikki]

I took that little class at 10 where they separate the girls from the boys for an hour or so and tell you what to expect from your body as you get older. My mom never told me about sex and I dont remember if the class talked about it- I think I picked it up from friends, from reading novels, and just putting two and two together. I know they talked about how babies are made and what happens, but no deep in depth talk about sex. 10 might be a good age to discuss it, but talking about an age to actually do it is a whole nother thing all together

[sumayyah]

I think that when they are old enough to know the difference between girls and boys (which usually comes up at the same time as "where do babies come from"), you should start telling them the basics. Nothing explicit, just that when they get to a certain age, blah blah blach. Otherwise, once they are old enough to understand conception and birth, they need all the facts and grim details.

[Babydoll]

I believe in answering the questions as they come up. If you are open to answering the easy questions, they won't be afraid to ask the big ones.

When boys became interested in my 8 yr old, I told her how babies are made, and about the body parts.

THe discussions get more in depth as they age.

[elmb]

I agree with babydoll, every child is different and you may bring something to them that they aren't prepared for mentally. I was a late bloomer and didn't really want to even discuss sex until about 14-15. My son on the other hand is 11 and has NEVER EVER thought girls were icky. *smile* He was always fascinated by them so now that he is much more observant of female body parts and taking extra care in his hygiene and making sure he is 'looking good' cause all the girls love him; oh NOW is the time to talk and that is exactly what I do. What type of girls he likes, why, etc. He talks, I listen because I'm blessed that he is talking and allowing me to teach him properly and not old wives tales that his friends may give him.

[DBlack]

I don't plan on teaching me daughter the first parts of this sequel until she is 11. How much I giver her dose will really depend on her level of understanding and maturity.

I am not looking forward to it, but It's gotta come from mom and pop no doubt.