Worried about my eldest son

[afrocentric]

She don't have to accept his interracial dating while he is living up under her roof. What happened to morals and values? If you don't stand for something you will fall for anything....

okay, well now if these particular white girls are coming up to him and trying to holla at him and his momma is right there, what is he suppose to say to them?

i'm pretty sure his momma is teaching him to respect people the way he wants to be respected. but if he ain't getting no respect from the black girls how he is going to respect them back?

[NaturalWoman]

Sounds like a phase to me. I have 3 boys, and I'm not sure if I agree or disagree with interracial relationships/dating.
I would not want my boys to date out of their race, but I would not tell them they couldn't. I teach them to treat all people the same, so I would be a hypocrite to say they couldn't date someone out of their race. But hopefully when they start dating it will be black girls. :) :)

[Juice.]

Originally Posted by Daughter of Kali

He's now coming into an age where he is displaying interest in girls. That is good, but what worries me is that all the girls that he shows any interest in are white. I have brought him up to be proud of his race and his heritage. Is this a passing phase? He has never had a strong father figure in his life, but I thought I was doing a good job bringing him and his two brothers on my own.

Don't sweat it, he'll grow out of it.

Just make sure he knows his history and culture. Eventually everyone, of every race, comes to an age of racial awareness. If you raised him right, he'll see just how wrong it is for him to be ******* with white girls.

[Treazzure007]

i remember liking white boys at a really young age. don't remember thinking about their color or anything, but every little boy i pointed out to my mom at school was white. i remember her telling me "okay he's nice. but next time i want you to find a little black boy to be your friend. no more white ones" that was when i was first introduced to color boundaries. i was 4

Originally Posted by Treazzure007

i remember liking white boys at a really young age. don't remember thinking about their color or anything, but every little boy i pointed out to my mom at school was white. i remember her telling me "okay he's nice. but next time i want you to find a little black boy to be your friend. no more white ones" that was when i was first introduced to color boundaries. i was 4

ok, now...not to sound like a shrink, but, how did that make you feel??*folding arms, with one eyebrow raised* LOL..& yes this is my question...(no disrespect)

[Treazzure007]

a little embarrassed b/c i felt like i had done something wrong at first. but, i did what she said and can't really remember too much about anything else

[RealTalk3000]

I'm just saying some sistas can be cruel to brothas that arent thugs, drug dealers, and future jail mates. Im saying her son could be a good guy and i see alot of sistas treat them guys wrong, then when a chick of another race gives him attention then his first instinct is to speak back he will show more interest because she didnt judge him or say anything wrong about him. The problem with black women is they give the wrong men ATTENTION,then they wonder why brothas are interested in white girls. Not saying this is an excuse but a face.Alot of these black boys arent taught to love themselves and when sistas belittle them during school and other ways,his second priority is white girls. No man in his right mind will sit and wait until a sista comes along and finally decide she wants to be with him then it will be too late, people gotta move on and let folks get with who they like

[Samoon]

Originally Posted by Daughter of Kali

He's now coming into an age where he is displaying interest in girls. That is good, but what worries me is that all the girls that he shows any interest in are white. I have brought him up to be proud of his race and his heritage. Is this a passing phase? He has never had a strong father figure in his life, but I thought I was doing a good job bringing him and his two brothers on my own.

(I've got a hunch!)

Looking at your s/name, I find it interesting that your "black" son shows interest solely in "white" cave-girls. You've reared him...in WHAT milieu or locale? Are you and your family racially isolated, that is, took "black flight" and moved where you felt "validated" by white people?

He has never had a "strong" father-figure you state? Again, interesting in that ALL of the Muslim men that I know (and I know quite a few!) MAKE it a point to be IN the home and IN the lives of their families.

For one who has "brought him up to be proud of his race and heritage," what is he surrounded WITH in terms of his peers on an everyday basis? What is he exposed to daily that may affect his "dismissal" of his "black" sistas?

Answer these questions---I already have an answer for you.

[Samoon]

Originally Posted by RealTalk3000

maybe white girls show him more respect and dont overlook him.

Maybe white girls are into him too.

Alot of times brothas get into liking white girls because the sistas act as if they feces dont stink,and then when a white girl comes their way then dude becomes interested of many races of women. There could be other reasons to why he's interested in white girls.

Bullchit---the question that you SHOULD ask in flipting the script it does HE respect his sistas? Sheesh.

[Samoon]

And what is TRULY sad...(take a LOOK around! Use your CONSCIOUS eyes) is the continual attacks that are done to BLACK males and females to keep them separate and apart. A dam shame and moreover, the ones that buy into the madness.

S/he is my sista/brother, they may BE heavy, but they will always BE FAMILY.