Adventures in Other People's Kids

[sumayyah]

Peace and blessings.

I came across a blog asking about a question of authority. The writer happened across some young women (teenagers) yelling across a store and referring to each other using the "N" word. She allowed the moment to pass, questioning why did she not say anything to them.

The question I am posing to you all is this: when is it okay to discipline children unknown to you? Have you ever? And what about the children that are acting up within earshot/eyesight of their parents? And would you want your child to be disciplined by someone unknown to you? (A passerby, store clerk, etc.)

[afrocentric]

when is it okay to discipline children unknown to you?

unless they are my family or my godchildren i have no problem saying something about it. but someone's child whom i don't know, it really isn't my place. the way kids are nowadays ( rude, abnoxious, ignant, loudmouth) you really can't say too much to them.

one of my boy's friends who i think is bad news said something nasty around my boy's aunt (my cousin) as she was getting out her car in the store's parking lot and they didn't even know she was standing there but my boy's did. they didn't correct him, but she did.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by sumayyah

Peace and blessings.

I came across a blog asking about a question of authority. The writer happened across some young women (teenagers) yelling across a store and referring to each other using the "N" word. She allowed the moment to pass, questioning why did she not say anything to them.

The question I am posing to you all is this: when is it okay to discipline children unknown to you? Have you ever? And what about the children that are acting up within earshot/eyesight of their parents? And would you want your child to be disciplined by someone unknown to you? (A passerby, store clerk, etc.)

Sistergirl, you have to think about you are saying. A seed/child is only a reflection of who it is planted by and ignorance magnifies ignorance over generations. Now, if the public feels compelled not to spare the rod on your child in public b/c it doesn't know how to compose itselves and listen to what you say, what does that indicate about your parenting skills. I'm just saying hypathetically. Time for inner reflection.

[s8loud]

When one disciplines a child, one's values are imparted to that child. I think that's the dominion of a child's parents, ideally speaking. However, practically speaking, if a child deserves to be corrected, it shouldn't matter who it comes from IMO, as long as it's in a constructive manner.

[Jewels0479]

This is a touchy subject. People are very protective of their children, right or wrong, and some children these days are obnoxious, ignorant, "too big for their britches" and don't even listen when their parents try and discipline them. If you feel compelled to discipline a child other than your own in public, you more than likely are dealing with one like I've just described. I don't have children but I have been out in public and had someone elses child act a fool around me. There have been times when I've set them straight an there have been times when I didn't say anything. It depends on the situation an how compelled I felt to intervene. It also depends on whether or not I think the child is going to be receptive to what I am saying or if I think my words will fall on deaf ears.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by Jewels0479

This is a touchy subject.

Sistergirl,as I told the other sister, it all boils down to hometraining. Afterall, a seed/ child is a direct reflection of their their home environment.A seed/child is only and respond to how it is planted and ignorance magnifies ignorance over generations. Now, if the public feels compelled not to spare the rod on your child in public shooting up peoples world like shaft. Because, it doesn't know how to compose itselves and doesn't listen to what you say, what does that indicate about your parenting skills. I'm just saying hypathetically.It'st ime for inner reflection and prayer.