how do we as parents grade ourself?

[afrocentric]

i always wonder if i'm doing a good job being a good parent. there are so much that my grandmother and aunties have taught me but some things have slipped. i'm trying my best to pass some of their memories, teaching, and wisdoms onto my kids. since i am a parent i have yet to grade myself. i think i'm going to give myself a C.

how about you? how do you grade yourself as a parent? did you do or are you doing better than your parents? did you or are you teaching your children the value of money, self-awareness, the importance of life, business, racism, etc..?

a yes and they understand.
b i'm getting there
c. i'm working on it
d. i'm still learning myself
f they can find out on their own

[s8loud]

I think I'd give myself a 'C' as well. I'm sure we all do our best as parents, and we hope that the things we learned from our own parents manifest themselves in the parenting of our children, but society has changed so much between then and now. It almost seems as though it's some sort of perpetual game of 'catch-up' in the context of teaching our kids the things we feel are best for them, and my guess is that we won't really know how we're doing until our kids are "grown."

[afrocentric]

but society has changed so much between then and now. It almost seems as though it's some sort of perpetual game of 'catch-up' in the context of teaching our kids the things we feel are best for them

i definitly agree with you here. society has changed. kids now a days are way to advanced then we were coming up. thanks for the new technology we have.

[matrixone05]

Originally Posted by afrocentric

i always wonder if i'm doing a good job being a good parent. there are so much that my grandmother and aunties have taught me but some things have slipped. i'm trying my best to pass some of their memories, teaching, and wisdoms onto my kids. since i am a parent i have yet to grade myself. i think i'm going to give myself a C.

how about you? how do you grade yourself as a parent? did you do or are you doing better than your parents? did you or are you teaching your children the value of money, self-awareness, the importance of life, business, racism, etc..?

a yes and they understand.
b i'm getting there
c. i'm working on it
d. i'm still learning myself
f they can find out on their own

Interesting question. When my children were younger, I knew some things got through to them and I sometimes questioned myself on others. You know that saying.."what is it going to take to make them understand?"

Now that they are basically grown, I'll say overall I give myself a b+. As they have gotten older, I find that many of the things I tried to instill in them, did take root; and with their growing maturity, begins to surface.

Am I a better parent than mine were - definitely, my parents left others to do their job.

Am I better at parenting than those family members who parented me, but are not responsible for my being??? Hmmmm.....those are big shoes to fill.

[amilcarkabral]

I'm not a parent, but i'm a child of two parents. It's been my experience of parents with grown children that they really grade themselves as 'good' or 'bad' parents based on whether they are proud of their children's accomplishments.

And of course, that 'good' or 'bad' is relative to the social-economic status that the parents themselves are a part of, as well as the social-moral system to which they subscribe.

A great book, well great section of a book, is Know-How by Cameron-Bandler, Lebeau and Gordon. you gotta pick it up used