Gay aka Homosexual Children

[LadyDivine]

Question arose in our family as to gay/homosexual children (teens/young people) living in your house having their same-sex "BOY/GIRL FRIEND" sleep over in the same room and in the same bed.

If their "friend" was of the opposite sex a parent would not allow the 16 y.o. girlfriend sleep in the same bed with their 16 y.o. son or let your 16 y.o. daughter have her 16 y.o. boyfriend sleep over.


Is there a way around this issue?

I said that this is a double standard and there is no way around it.

If your child is gay and you do not allow them to have ANY SAME-SEX overnight guest then you are being too harsh.

[Sumyr]

I don't see it as being too harsh. They chose that lifestyle and along with it the consequences.

[afrocentric]

how would you tell that person? would you say no he/she can't spend the night cuz he/shes gay and you don't support that? or is your love that strong for him/her?

[Nyela]

Wow LadyD, this is tough. On the one hand, no parent should ever allow their sixteen y/o's "lover" to sleep over, especially in the same room/bed.
However, whether one is homosexual or not, it can be very difficult at times to determine the motives and intentions of someone else's child. In this day and age many parents are, for good reason, leery about having other children stay over; whether or not their sexual preference is known.
That being said...If it were me, I don't think I would allow my sixteen y/o's same sex friends to stay over if my child believed him/herself to be lesbian or gay.

[sonflour_2001]

We just didn't have sleepovers when we were younger. And when we did, EVERYBODY had their own separate sleeping arrangements. Sleeping bags, blankets...we pulled straws for who would get the bed. Lol! Problem solved.

Deondra

[DBlack]

I would treat my child the same way I would any other innapropriate behavior or life choce. And if they don't like it, the door swings both ways.

Parents should have the courage to be able to distinguish between love and acceptance of unacceptable behavior.

[MzKwietStorm]

As stated above, no matter what sexuality my child chooses his/her lover will not stay the night at my house regardless. The most you can do is sit on my couch and watch television, that's it! The only way it could happen is if I'm (for whatever reason) unaware that my child is gay and I allow his/her same sex friend to spend the night. Other than that, CANCEL IT!

[robbboy2003]

I wouldn't add or take away anything in this instance gay,or straight. There will be no lovers together up in here. I think that anyone that will let a young man/woman,or girl that likes girl to their own little whims is asking,nah begging for trouble. You have to parent right,or wrong. You just can't be indifferent.

[Gorilla]

If the parents know for sure their kid is homosexual and are sure the other child sleeping over is involved with their kid, then of course not. I think allowing all same sex kids not to sleep over might be a bit much. All of their peers will more than likely not be homosexual.

Its up to the parents in the end though. I think if they're going to generalize they should just choose not to let their kids have sleep overs or participate in them no matter the gender of who is involved. At the very least, this will seem somewhat more of a balanced decision.

[LadyDivine]

Thanks everybody for you comments, but this whole thing cast teen and young adult friendships into a whole new light.

This stuff is scary.

You really gotta watch your children.