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Originally Posted by Mr Gumbo
I'm about to get married soon and the new family will be a blended 1. We are both single parents with sons. Her son's father is a punk asz man who doesn't want anything to do with his son because he's deaf. He sends child support on time and everything but spending time he ain't interested. My son's mother died 4 years ago so it's been just me and him. This is just a background of my situation but anybody out there got any stories (good or bad), tips or any suggestions for me on blending 2 seperate families into 1?
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Congratulations! Your new family is going to work out great.
-- It is not your job to replace your stepson's father. Do not discourage any feelings he still has for his birth father. You and your stepson will work out, together, the details of exactly what your relationship is to be.
-- It is not your new wife's job to replace your son's deceased mother. Let them work out, together, the details of exactly what their relationship is to be.
-- Do not denigrate your stepson's birth father in front of him, not even to agree with something his mama said.
-- Make sure that you work out with your new wife, before you say I Do, exactly what she expects your role to be as far as disciplining your stepson and exactly what you expect her role to be as far as disciplining her stepson.
-- Do not treat your stepson as if his being deaf is a handicap. Make a conscious effort to act as if he is what he is -- a perfectly normal boy.
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