Teenagers and Sex - Page 3 - AfroChat - African American

Lediamand · August 29th, 2007, 04:10 PM

The thing about sex talk with children is that you properly explained the good and the bad effects of having sex. Its not good enough to simply tell them about the disadvantages of sex, but also the reward of sex when you do it in the proper conditions. Some parents just sya sex is bad don't do it . it will destroy your life, thats like giving the kid and his/her curiosity one way ticket to I am going to find out-for-myself-ville.

robbboy2003 · August 29th, 2007, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Lediamand

The thing about sex talk with children is that you properly explained the good and the bad effects of having sex. Its not good enough to simply tell them about the disadvantages of sex, but also the reward of sex when you do it in the proper conditions. Some parents just sya sex is bad don't do it . it will destroy your life, thats like giving the kid and his/her curiosity one way ticket to I am going to find out-for-myself-ville.

A very good point!

Kareem · September 15th, 2007, 02:17 PM

I'd let my 15 year old son have sex with anyone woman he wants as long as she wasn't married and he used proper protection.
A man should be experienced in bed.

I wouldn't let my daughter have sex until she was grown and/or married because for a woman to have sex carries much more risks like rape, pregnancy, being emotionaly abused and manipulated, ect.

Is that sexist?

Yep.

Do I apologize for it?

Nope

Queen Aminah · September 17th, 2007, 01:46 PM

I have spoken with my older kids about sex alternatives like masturbation, waiting and the good and bad points of all their choices as well as the MANY consequences of not waiting. In the end its their choice and their consequences. I just keep them close, occupied and supervised. I remember how it was to be young with your sap just a-flowing :)

Its Ok 2 B Quiet · October 2nd, 2007, 07:25 PM

My 16 year old asked me this except it was worded a little differently. He said that he had been dating the current girl for about 8 months and is that considered sufficient time before having sex. My words to him were:

I told him that I didn't feel it was because he was too young...period at this time to have sex. No parent wants to entertain the thought that their 16 yr old child is wanting to have sex and that I wouldn't give him a "green light" to do so. I can't stop you but can only try to educate you and hope you'll listen. There are consequences to be dealt with and you aren't mature enough to handle them right now - focus on school, football, hanging out with your friends and have fun.

Then I told him if he tried to sneak a girl in my house, I'd break his neck!

Serenity4Ever · October 26th, 2007, 09:09 PM

I would say "No, that's just you're hormones talking. I'm not ready to accept that you "think" you're ready but I was 15 once too. And although I don't approve of you having sex at this age, I know that if you're determined to do it, you will find a way whether I agree with it or not. You'll sneak and do it cause that's what teenagers do. So all that being said.... if you gone do it, be safe about it.... use some protection and whatever you do... DON'T TELL ME Cause I don't Wanna Know about it."

The Dragon · October 26th, 2007, 11:24 PM

I am of the belief that teenagers need a harsh penalty for engaging in sex. Talking to them while they are young are great but just does not seem good enough to really put into their heads that this interaction with the opposite sex at this young age is not cool and will not be tolerated.

We need to put more drastic measures into action.

mlr710 · October 27th, 2007, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by The Dragon

I am of the belief that teenagers need a harsh penalty for engaging in sex. Talking to them while they are young are great but just does not seem good enough to really put into their heads that this interaction with the opposite sex at this young age is not cool and will not be tolerated.

We need to put more drastic measures into action.

When you say "we"...you mean we, as in parents, guardians, etc. Or do you mean we, as in laws and legislation?

Mr Gumbo · October 27th, 2007, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by The Dragon

I am of the belief that teenagers need a harsh penalty for engaging in sex. Talking to them while they are young are great but just does not seem good enough to really put into their heads that this interaction with the opposite sex at this young age is not cool and will not be tolerated.

We need to put more drastic measures into action.

Even then they will still do it. I know me as a boy I was trying to hump everything moving because our hormones are raging at that point I mean the wind blow and we get aroused. I can't sit here and just say don't do it and just hope that my son listens because he's still a kid and kid's don't think of the things that is gonna happen to him after the fact. He will know that I don't want him to have sex and strong in that belief but if you don't do as I want then at least protect yourself from all kinds of things out there.

Its Ok 2 B Quiet · October 27th, 2007, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Serenity4Ever

I would say "No, that's just you're hormones talking. I'm not ready to accept that you "think" you're ready but I was 15 once too. And although I don't approve of you having sex at this age, I know that if you're determined to do it, you will find a way whether I agree with it or not. You'll sneak and do it cause that's what teenagers do. So all that being said.... if you gone do it, be safe about it.... use some protection and whatever you do... DON'T TELL ME Cause I don't Wanna Know about it."

I like the way you said that.