Teenagers and Sex

[Lediamand]

I would sit him or her down and explain the good and bad of sex, and the age and conditions that are suitable for having sex. The answer for now ofcourse would be a straight no.

[Mr Gumbo]

See I think if we let our kids get to 15 without having those talks we are already behind because those feelings would have already started with them.

[Chelbe]

In regards to myself saying that sex is overrated, it is overrated at 15.

[The Dragon]

There was not a lot about sex that my grandma and mother was willing to share. Except for the fact that I better not be doing it or even try to do it! I was also rehearsed with the names given to young girls who "did not keep their panties up."

I learned to be ashamed of my sexuality.

Men were almost demonized to me. It seems that my ma and grandma experienced much pain and disappointments in their relationships with men. And really, they did. I guess all they had to pass on to me was the grief concerning what they had been through.

But I learned about sex through all the wrong avenues. Porn mags, kids at school, relatives who are not worthy to speak on, coming to my own conclusions, etc...

Whew!! I just hope I am better at guiding my own children through this if I ever have any.

[UglymanCometh]

Originally Posted by Chelbe

In regards to myself saying that sex is overrated, it is overrated at 15.

Hell, it was overrated at 24 too...

[Lediamand]

Sex is overrated outside a good relationship period and mainly outside of marriage. No matter how great the sex is it doesn't stop most people from breaking up or get divorced for that matter, when things are going wrong the sex memories never come up in topics, well some people do stay in relationships because the awesome sexI have heard some comments like that . Anyway a kid at 15 is nowhere mentally prepared to handle a good relationship or the consequences of having sex prematurely.

[Chelbe]

Originally Posted by UglymanCometh

Hell, it was overrated at 24 too...

lol.. true, true. As adults, we do as we do, but I feel that the want and rush to have sex so early is not all it's cracked up to be.

[LadyDivine]

Sex education starts at home.
My teen and I have had some pretty x-rated conversations about sex.
We talk to our kids about everything else important in life why not sex.

I do keep it age appropriate but I did not flinch when she asked me what were "booty shots" or tossin somebody's salad"

Now that she is 17 y.o. I plan to get even more graphic in my responses.

[robbboy2003]

I'm grateful to God,that i have strong women in my family,that could really break it down about sex to my daughter and now adopted daughter and niece. It was so much easier talking to my young men curiously about sex.

I did talk to my baby all through her life,and took her out on her sweet sixteenth and a discussion about her upcoming life,and waiting for the perfect and right time for love and sex with the right guy.

I'm basically doing the same thing with these two younger girls. I'll say my rules about stuff like( no wearing makeup,or dating) until their sixteen,and at home no less so i can have eyes on 'em. I stress to them about,if they were to bring a child into this world about being responsible. I tell 'em about the different birth controls. I tell them that there's no reason at all to have an unplanned pregnancy by being stupid.

Lawd, I'm going to holla,when we get these last children out of here!

Peace!

[Mr Gumbo]

We need to get on our kids level and talk to them about sex. If we don't tell them they gone learn from the wrong sources and next thing you know you'll be a young grandparent. Growing up it was taboo for parents to talk about it and of course I learned the wrong way and I was just lucky.