Religion/Moral beliefs aside

[Vegence]

(((Today's question)))

How does having children born into marriage better than having children out of wedlock?

[tafui]

Moral beliefs aside...
Are the parents:

1. Living together.
2. Sharing the same ideas about child rearing.
3. Both caring and part of the child's life???

Peace,
tafui

[Vegence]

Originally Posted by tafui

Moral beliefs aside...
Are the parents:

1. Living together.
2. Sharing the same ideas about child rearing.
3. Both caring and part of the child's life???

Peace,
tafui

Why does it matter?

[tafui]

It matters because if a woman has a child out of wedlock to a guy she had a one night stand with, then she will have a single parent household. Which is different than if a woman had a child with a loving partner (though they aren't married).

My point is this, if all variables are the same, then it wouldn't matter if a child was born in or out of wedlock. If you change the variables, then you change whether one is better than the other.

Peace,
tafui

[JamieC]

Originally Posted by tafui

It matters because if a woman has a child out of wedlock to a guy she had a one night stand with, then she will have a single parent household. Which is different than if a woman had a child with a loving partner (though they aren't married).

My point is this, if all variables are the same, then it wouldn't matter if a child was born in or out of wedlock. If you change the variables, then you change whether one is better than the other.

Peace,
tafui

Ummm.. not really. because if a woman had a child out of wedlock doesn't mean she'd have a single parent household. And I can testify to that because I was in that situation when I had my first child when I was 18 years old. Not every man thinks the same. Maybe he wanted to be a part of the program.

And to say she had a child with a loving partner doesn't matter either because he could up and leave and not want to deal with the situation.

It's generally a two-way street when it comes to something like that. Not to mention the fact that I was 18 many moons ago so I've learned a lot in this lifetime. :)

[Harmony]

Originally Posted by Vegence

(((Today's question)))

How does having children born into marriage better than having children out of wedlock?

It's almost impossble to remove a religious or moral tag from the situation because answers are based on the premise of one or both of them being the case.

A child born to a married mother and father has a sense of togetherness, belonging, stability, benefit of both parents in the home, getting the equal love but as each parent can sufficiently provide, being in accordance with what society projects is best for children, not feeling inferior or out of place because theirs is an upbringing outside of what is supposed to be "right."

[Samoon]

Originally Posted by Harmony

It's almost impossble to remove a religious or moral tag from the situation because answers are based on the premise of one or both of them being the case.

A child born to a married mother and father has a sense of togetherness, belonging, stability, benefit of both parents in the home, getting the equal love but as each parent can sufficiently provide, being in accordance with what society projects is best for children, not feeling inferior or out of place because theirs is an upbringing outside of what is supposed to be "right."

I agree with your stance on this.

[Vegence]

Is is safe to say that you feel that a child who's parents are married and living together is better off than the one who's parent's aren't married and aren't living together?

Originally Posted by tafui

It matters because if a woman has a child out of wedlock to a guy she had a one night stand with, then she will have a single parent household. Which is different than if a woman had a child with a loving partner (though they aren't married).

My point is this, if all variables are the same, then it wouldn't matter if a child was born in or out of wedlock. If you change the variables, then you change whether one is better than the other.

Peace,
tafui

[Vegence]

Originally Posted by Harmony

It's almost impossble to remove a religious or moral tag from the situation because answers are based on the premise of one or both of them being the case.

This alone is another thread!

Originally Posted by Harmony

A child born to a married mother and father has a sense of togetherness, belonging, stability, benefit of both parents in the home, getting the equal love but as each parent can sufficiently provide, being in accordance with what society projects is best for children, not feeling inferior or out of place because theirs is an upbringing outside of what is supposed to be "right."

So a child born to unmarried parents can't feel the same "togetherness, belonging, stability, benefit of both parents in the home, getting the equal love but as each parent can sufficiently provide," ?

Given that amount of umarried parents in this country is it realistic to say that the child will fell "out of place" if his/her mommy and daddy isn't married ? :confused:

two heads
wallets
sets of eyes
different opinions
personalities
differt people giving you love under the same roof
............is better than one.