Religion/Moral beliefs aside

[Vegence]

Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

So again I ask

"How does having children born into marriage better than having children out of wedlock?"

Does being born out of wedlock mean you only have 1 wallet, set of eyes, opinion etc....

Originally Posted by Man_in_Minnesota

two heads
wallets
sets of eyes
different opinions
personalities
differt people giving you love under the same roof
............is better than one.

[Blak]

For the child born in wedlock, they are more likely to have thier father around for a longer period of time. Women will want to "keep their options open" and not get "tied down" to the man they created the kid with and kick him to the curb (then ask for $$) sometimes. Other times, the guy is the one who dont want to be "tied down". If they married, they wanted to be together, and while marriage doesnt last half the time....the kid would get a two parent environment and be exposed to both parents for at least a period of time.

Blak

[Vegence]

I'm still waiting to hear the how having a child in wedlock is better than having a child out of wedlock.

So far all the pro's for wedlock can be easily applied to children who's parent's aren't married!

Trying to make ya'll think now c'mon !!
I know we can do better than this!!

[originata]

Originally Posted by Vegence

(((Today's question)))

How does having children born into marriage better than having children out of wedlock?

I believe one person can be a great enough parent for their children. Its not necessarily better to have kids born into wedlock but its the kinds of people who are irresponsible and have kids OOW are the problem.

A married couple is probably more likely to believe in the family concept and are expecting or at least open to having children in the first place. Plus you factor in dual income or one income while the other stays at home is a bigger advantage and an extra set of eyes, ears, and hands is helpful.

If you ask a general question you will get a general answer, for me it did mean those things my mother and father were not married and it meant everythin I said, it meant.

Now if you want me to consider people born out of wedlock who's parents are still friends or cohabitate then say so, I didnt think about gay parents either, and what about married parents that have one spouse in jail for life, what about married parents who have been through a tragic accident that leaves one parent a quadraplegic. What about people born to parents out of wedlock but the the mother of has a conjoined twin she shares a liver with, so that makes it three sets of eyes or maybe only one and a half sets of eyes and one and a half hearts cause the conjoined twin mothers share the heart too.

It could mean anything either way, but everythings has two sides and exceptions to rules and things that fit the sereotype and breakdown the sereotype nothing is black and white, but I didnt think I had to state both sides to every story, and the fact that I didnt mention the other side doesn't mean I dont think it exists.

I dont think about anything until after 12pm central time and I still have 19min

[Vegence]

18 mins and counting... ;)

[tafui]

Originally Posted by tafui

It matters because if a woman has a child out of wedlock to a guy she had a one night stand with, then she will have a single parent household. Which is different than if a woman had a child with a loving partner (though they aren't married).

My point is this, if all variables are the same, then it wouldn't matter if a child was born in or out of wedlock. If you change the variables, then you change whether one is better than the other.

Peace,
tafui

Vegence,

I quoted myself. This is to answer your initial question. Your initial question asked if one was better than the other...and I responded accordingly. If the situation in and out of wedlock for the parents is the same...then it won't matter.

Peace,
tafui

[tafui]

Originally Posted by JamieC

Ummm.. not really. because if a woman had a child out of wedlock doesn't mean she'd have a single parent household. And I can testify to that because I was in that situation when I had my first child when I was 18 years old. Not every man thinks the same. Maybe he wanted to be a part of the program.

And to say she had a child with a loving partner doesn't matter either because he could up and leave and not want to deal with the situation.

It's generally a two-way street when it comes to something like that. Not to mention the fact that I was 18 many moons ago so I've learned a lot in this lifetime. :)

You misunderstood my post. I used those points as examples as to why Vegence needed to specify certain things before I could answer her question. I said that if the variables for both situations were the same, then it didn't matter if the child was born in or out of wedlock.

Peace,
tafui

[Vegence]

My bad~

Point recieved.

Originally Posted by tafui

Vegence,

I quoted myself. This is to answer your initial question. Your initial question asked if one was better than the other...and I responded accordingly. If the situation in and out of wedlock for the parents is the same...then it won't matter.

Peace,
tafui