[DBlack]

Namaste,

Sorry for what you are going through. But it seems to me you already know the answer to your problems, you just want others to tell you.

First, if this relationship is effecting your job that much, given importance of your job, perhaps you need to take a break from the relationship. He's not your husband, so why put yourself through that much heartbreak for a boyfriend?

I'm sure there is more to the story than what you are telling (I'm married, so I understand that woman tell stories very differently from what they actually are), but I just can't see why any woman would get herself caught up with a man that's taken. And vice versa. Give him time to break up and get settled. Breakups are painful and emotional. Both of you need to know that the baggage has been taken out before you entertain getting serious.

I could sit here and dog him out, but you are just as much to blame as he is, because you are a willing participant in the drama.

Good luck,