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Originally Posted by Curious1
It may not be "doomed"...but it has "changed"...I'd say, don't stop communicating with him...If he is getting serious about correcting his relationship with GOD and his life..and reconcialing his role in his divorce and making amends to his 4-yr old,build up on that relationship...sounds like he has a lot on his plate..emotionally...Ya'll probably did get in soon, but the separation only shone a light on ya'll differences and expectations..If you don't feel you love or like him like that..then by all means..let it go...and if he is trying to grow into himself via GOD and that is not where you are right now..may have to let him gO..so he can reconnect his relationship with his GOD and The Bible and stuff...now if he is not that deep into the religion attempts and still wants to try to get with you....then all you can try is a try...long distance relationships can be tough...
But reading this...it sounds like you are mentally bringing the baggage from past relationships into this one...Being an Erykah Badu.."Bag Lady"...
I can't say this may make any sense at all and is difficult to respond to for me..because there are soooo many issues woven into it...He moved to be closer to his daughter and joined a Church which is working on him trying to get his "mind" and "spirit" right...I can't fault him for that...how could I...UGH...
I'm thinking you just can't get with a long distance relationship....and yeah, have some baggage from before that makes you weary...(i.e the other guy who used Religion as reason to break up..(again many religious folks don't think of it as an excuse as per their religion and Bible it is "fornication" a sin to them...) and then the fiancee who has found a true love and is going to marry her...not in a state of emotional confusion..moving his life to the next phase of some trials & tribulations but still willing to try committment to professing love to ONE other person...I' not compare exes loves and lives to yours...People make decisions for THEIR LIVES...and good or bad...live with them...please don't have those regrets...You're doing what is best for you and there's nothing wrong with that...but on this..don't give up or hide out UNTIL and UNLESS you are sure ya'll have discussed RAW TRUTH and expectations...and PATHS....
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True and thanks alot. We did discuss marriage today because I wanted to know if I was wasting my time. He said he could see us there BUT now that I say I'm on the fence about kids (before I said I didn't want any) that gives him something to think about because he doesn't want me resenting him if he doesn't want any. I don't want kids. I have never wanted kids but I don't want to rule them out either. I'm like if it happens great, if it doesn't happen that's great too. He's been wishy washy on the subject of children because he already has two and I felt like he is now finding counteracting conversations to mess with my head.... I could be putting more into this but at this point I'm like mush.....