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Originally Posted by Browneyes123
I am a 21/f looking for advice about a freind.
He is just a freind and NOTHING more. Let me assure you. We have been cool for years, and we have the same circle of friends. There is something i have a hard time getting over..he hates natural hair and thinks Afros are unattractive on black women. I have always known this about him, and frankly it's something that I could never fully accept. Maybe it's because of the issues many black women face due to our hair and being accepted in society.
I switch up styles a lot, and some of the styles I wear include it being natural. We recently got into an argument about this, and our friendship is on the brink of ending. I am not sure if I want to be friends with someone who thinks nappy hair is "ugly" on a black woman, and thinks an afro or natural style is wild, undone, and "needs to be permed"--those are his exact words. And I know some may say, "that's his opinion don't let it bother you". Which is very true. But IMO, this is a dealbreaker as far as friendships and relationships go.
I want to know, should I still be friends with this guy or cut him out of my life because of his views on nappy hair being inferior? It really bothers me and I find it irritating the way he looks down on nappy hair. The comments that he said about nappy hair is only the half of it, he pretty much despises it. Yet, I am not sure if I want to keep him as a friend. Am I wrong for feeling this way?? Let me know please
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Just don't bring the subject up. If you two are truly the friends that you say you are and have been then he is your "friend" regardless if you are permed, natural, bold headed or what. His personal opinion about YOUR hair can be kept to himself.
Not like he is your boyfriend. If this was the case, I would tell you to tell him to jump off the nearest bridge. That type of hatred for natural hair coming from a boyfriend would be to close for comfort for me.