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Originally Posted by cosmicurious
This is the story: I am interested in this guy that I met four months ago. He tells me that he likes me but that his "Home Girl" tells him that I am intelligent but a bit immature for him. I am in my mid-thirties with no kids and he is in his early forties, divorced and has three children. Despite her warning he continues to seek me out. I, eventually, found out that she is a coworker of ours. She happens to be a white woman that he slept with and now they are just friends. I am simply thrown. I thought that he was a deeply conscious black man, but now I am completely disgusted that he seeks her counsel and does not see the hidden motives in her advice.
I want nothing more to do with him.
Am I overreacting? I would appreciate any and all comments.
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Depends on how you look at it. Sounds like she slung mud on your name for the sake of envy. Also, if he's going around having sex with his "friends" like that......don't deal with this guy. Already three kids from a divorce along with sleepign with one of his co-workers? Hmmm. If he has patterns of behavior that seem to be like he he's only out for one thing, I'd say watch it. Sounds like he maybe a good dude but his judgement is screwed.
LETS GO BEYOND THE WHOLE RACE ASPECT, HE'S NOT CONCIOUS AND ETC. VIEW FOR A SEC (since it looks like we're having another one of those arugments brewing in here again).....lets look at the scenario in general. He's friends with her and seeks her help in pursuing yet thinks you have a flaw. After a while, she'll pick out more flaws just to throw salt in the game. I don't know about you guys but I've seen people that were friends sleep together and things jump off bad when one of the people in the relationship end up dealing with somone else. So, I say......it seems like some drama could be up ahead for you. If you like being drama-free, then you did the right thing. But thats my observation.
