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Its Ok 2 B Quiet · March 3rd, 2008, 02:27 PM

s8loud - I am somewhat at loss as what to say. I see the potential in him, I know that he is smart (very technical and when it presents itself, very focused). I know I can ask him to do something and he'll do it like he was told with the exception of school. But when I look back and at things, he does make poor choices. Its not that I try to focus only on the negative but his actions tend to be that. There has to be some accountability for his actions/behavior and he doesn't think there should be any.

He chooses to be the class clown and focus on everything else but what is priority...his education. They're dad has never been a participant when it came to them but I am always here and make them a priority. My son has been producing "below average/average" work since elementary - just doing enough to get by and sometimes it didn't work. As I said before, he has so many people that pull for him (including me) and he never gives anything back. Isn't it time that he show those who have his best interest at heart what and who they're fighting for? He continues to make poor choices and not work to the level that everyone knows he can.

He told me that I couldn't talk to him the way I did yesterday but he thinks that he can disrespect me nd that I won't call him on it. I wish I had told my parents or grandmother something about talking to me a certain way - I'd be picking my teeth up off the floor. He has been jealous of his brother since middle school but how can you be jealous because he does his work and makes honor roll, but you won't do it? It would be the same if he would apply himself which is something that I constantly tell him but he chooses to do the opposite. Because of his track record, I worry more when he's out of my sight. I worry that something will happen or he will make another poor choice that will get him in trouble or hurt and he doesn't seem to understand that.

For me, I realize that he hasn't received as much nuturing as he needed. Part of it comes from the "challenge" of dealing with him and figuring him out. Maybe it was easier to "not participate" as much as I did with his brother.

I hear what you (and the others) are saying but I just feel that he has to be held accountable for his actions/behavior as well.

March 3rd, 2008, 02:27 PM	#9 (permalink)
Its Ok 2 B Quiet Afro Resident Emerging Voice Its Ok 2 B Quiet is offline Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Inland Empire Posts: 236 Thanks: 1 Thanked 18 Times in 18 Posts Rep Power: 6 Credits: 1,444	s8loud - I am somewhat at loss as what to say. I see the potential in him, I know that he is smart (very technical and when it presents itself, very focused). I know I can ask him to do something and he'll do it like he was told with the exception of school. But when I look back and at things, he does make poor choices. Its not that I try to focus only on the negative but his actions tend to be that. There has to be some accountability for his actions/behavior and he doesn't think there should be any. He chooses to be the class clown and focus on everything else but what is priority...his education. They're dad has never been a participant when it came to them but I am always here and make them a priority. My son has been producing "below average/average" work since elementary - just doing enough to get by and sometimes it didn't work. As I said before, he has so many people that pull for him (including me) and he never gives anything back. Isn't it time that he show those who have his best interest at heart what and who they're fighting for? He continues to make poor choices and not work to the level that everyone knows he can. He told me that I couldn't talk to him the way I did yesterday but he thinks that he can disrespect me nd that I won't call him on it. I wish I had told my parents or grandmother something about talking to me a certain way - I'd be picking my teeth up off the floor. He has been jealous of his brother since middle school but how can you be jealous because he does his work and makes honor roll, but you won't do it? It would be the same if he would apply himself which is something that I constantly tell him but he chooses to do the opposite. Because of his track record, I worry more when he's out of my sight. I worry that something will happen or he will make another poor choice that will get him in trouble or hurt and he doesn't seem to understand that. For me, I realize that he hasn't received as much nuturing as he needed. Part of it comes from the "challenge" of dealing with him and figuring him out. Maybe it was easier to "not participate" as much as I did with his brother. I hear what you (and the others) are saying but I just feel that he has to be held accountable for his actions/behavior as well.