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I don't know how old your middle son is...but...I come to realize that kids have no true outlets anymore..They've taken music, arts, some places even wood shop and home-ec out of the schools..like way back in the day...But teaching kids these other survival skills yet fun..besides just the CRCT and 3R's in life...And, shoot, most boys need outlets...Like...uh...Mayeb sign him up to learn how to drum or do karate/martial arts...or go down to your neighborhood boxing center learn how to "box"...as an energy outlet...They can learn some self defense discipline, confidence building from some of those men who can often instill in them as they learn to upper cut, jab and all that round house...lol...shoot, learn how to train right physically and as a young man in training in life...Or maybe he could use a little job,try bust boy or something at a restaurant...something??? Boys 2 men Rites of Passage some young to tween boys go thru can be a Monster...UGH....(I'm recalling things my older siblings did to their boys at varying ages...and man, their dads(my bro's) didn't play...they got 'em in league ball teams up to certain age to making them learn karate to boxing to even signing their baddy butts up for Habitat for Humanity housing projects via their jobs...and even, here having them go "feed the hungry" (Hosea Williams) or anything that they could volunteer to see how the "other half lives"...less fortunate...Boy, I remember them going toe to toe with some knucklehead, stubborn tween to teen nephew over how they really have led some sheltered lives and don't know how it really means to be strugglin'. I think we have spoiled out kids as a whole in this country...they don't seem to really get a sense of personal accomplishment or need to work hard to see their own results on their own efforts...things handed to them...paths made for them...they get bored and worse...expectant that someone else is gonna bail them out and come to their rescue on stuff...I'd say set your ground and house rules again...but make him do an extracurricular thing not even say..school related but something he's enjoy...fully rounded as a person
We found putting the "I don't know".."nonchalant".."idle mind" kid in an activity (extracurricular in nature) that they may like to learn to do...something to give them an outlet that allows them to vent their energy...
Middle niecey loves her dance, girl scouts, anything active and involved...
Youngest niecey loves going to Home Depot on some of those saturday kidworkshops...she likes making those kid wood project stuff..(she's a lil tom boy-ish...lol..but girly looking on the outside)
The oldest niecey...is a trip..but so far believe it or not..she actually likes learning how to drum/percussion lessons...who'da thought...(WE HAVE GREAT BEHAVIORAL PROBLEMS WITH THIS ONE !!!
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