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Originally Posted by Sumyr
No, I don't think you over-reacted. You did calmly ask and he grabbed you first. This was probably a problem in past relationships with her and other men and the child. He's use to getting his way, when he doesn't he acts out and then gets his way anyway because others are afraid to deal with him because of his disability and they didn't want to be confrontational with the mother either. I've got a feeling he "won't" be acting out with you or the mother again. I think he learned a valuable lesson in how to act in public. People with disabilities are always wanting to be treated equally and I think you taught him that early (right now) that the world isn't always going to cater to him in life, especially when you and moma aren't around and he's on his own.
Now for the reprimand: Throwing him against the wall while his feet dangled was a bit harsh. Grabbing in the collar or whipping would be appropriate discipline for his age in public.
One thing I did notice from your post is that she (your fiance') supported you.........very important in raising children both of your own and from previous relationships. I thought you were going to say something to the affect that she said don't touch her son anymore. Great woman you have; kudos for her in supporting you. You two will work out just fine together.  |
Yes she is very supportive of how I discipline my son and hers. I'm really trying to put it in his head the world does not care about you and the fact that you have a disability so you (him) can't use that as a crutch you still got to stand on your feet regardless.