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Mr Gumbo · December 3rd, 2007, 04:31 PM

Okay yall. A brief history of my family, I have 1 son of my own and my fiancee has a son that will be my step son soon. Well he is a 12 year old deaf kid who has been overly spoiled by everyone in his family besides his mother because of the disability. He's used to getting EVERYTHING he wants but with me it don't work like that. Well here's what happened:

We are in Wal-Mart he's off in the toy section looking around, he has 20 dollars that is burning a hole in his pocket. He finds us and he wants to purchase this Pokemon game that is only a slight upgrade of the 1 he has. I told him no, even though it's your money you not wasting it on something you already have. He's cool, walks off disappointed but okay but then comes back all man talking about how he wants it blah blah blah. He's still cool, so I'm like I already said no and his mom and him start talking. I walk further down then I hear him getting louder and louder so I turn the cart around and walk back down there. He's yelling now in her face, I put my hand on his shoulder and say "calm down you can speak your mind but in a calm voice not yelling" (trying to be patient because of the disablity and sometimes he doesn't understand fully). He grabs at my hand and YELLS DON'T TOUCH ME. So I grab him with both hands and say calm down you not finna talk to me or her like that. So he starts to really try and handle me up. Well so I pick him up and slam him into a wall while his feet dangle. I tell him again you ain't finna talk to nobody like that and that you can say what's on your mind but you not gone yell at nobody. Well he trys to grab my neck and I squeeze the living shizt out of his arms (feet still dangling) and he instantly starts balling. He calms down and realizes but he's still mad but he's cool. We finish shopping and the manager comes and starts asking questions about the kid because people complaining about me. She gets mad because nobody complained while he's yelling in her face but the minute I try and discipline the kid now it's a problem. The manager was a brotha and he understood fully.

Now so far this board will tell you the real deal so that's what I'm asking for did I do the right thing or overeact?

December 3rd, 2007, 04:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
Mr Gumbo Afro Resident Mr Gumbo is offline Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Louisiana Born Living In D-Town Texas Posts: 1,035 Thanks: 193 Thanked 371 Times in 223 Posts Rep Power: 48 Credits: 6,651	Did I Overeact? Okay yall. A brief history of my family, I have 1 son of my own and my fiancee has a son that will be my step son soon. Well he is a 12 year old deaf kid who has been overly spoiled by everyone in his family besides his mother because of the disability. He's used to getting EVERYTHING he wants but with me it don't work like that. Well here's what happened: We are in Wal-Mart he's off in the toy section looking around, he has 20 dollars that is burning a hole in his pocket. He finds us and he wants to purchase this Pokemon game that is only a slight upgrade of the 1 he has. I told him no, even though it's your money you not wasting it on something you already have. He's cool, walks off disappointed but okay but then comes back all man talking about how he wants it blah blah blah. He's still cool, so I'm like I already said no and his mom and him start talking. I walk further down then I hear him getting louder and louder so I turn the cart around and walk back down there. He's yelling now in her face, I put my hand on his shoulder and say "calm down you can speak your mind but in a calm voice not yelling" (trying to be patient because of the disablity and sometimes he doesn't understand fully). He grabs at my hand and YELLS DON'T TOUCH ME. So I grab him with both hands and say calm down you not finna talk to me or her like that. So he starts to really try and handle me up. Well so I pick him up and slam him into a wall while his feet dangle. I tell him again you ain't finna talk to nobody like that and that you can say what's on your mind but you not gone yell at nobody. Well he trys to grab my neck and I squeeze the living shizt out of his arms (feet still dangling) and he instantly starts balling. He calms down and realizes but he's still mad but he's cool. We finish shopping and the manager comes and starts asking questions about the kid because people complaining about me. She gets mad because nobody complained while he's yelling in her face but the minute I try and discipline the kid now it's a problem. The manager was a brotha and he understood fully. Now so far this board will tell you the real deal so that's what I'm asking for did I do the right thing or overeact?