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Although i'm beyond happy these almost twenty-four years, i can't figure out how we were able to walk the aisle at age ten,that my partner is claiming now lol! Oh, that's right some folks claiming 40 is the new thirty,and mysteriously subtract a year,or two,but i digress.
I would,or could not stay in a loveless marriage,or relationship. That connection has to be there. If there were children,certainly that would give one pause to think about the ramfications,or consequences wheres it concerns them. Again, if we're having problems,because of someone having,an affair. Personally, the children needn't see us their parents go at each other like that. Cheating,gambling drugging would be the things to set us up for splitsville. Before all of this gets to this point. The couple should talk.
I will say this. Some folks find it much easier to talk to any body else except the partner,which is stupid. They have problems,and he,or she hooks up with the first sympathic ear,that happens to be good looking and the opposite sex. That's how many folks fan the flames today and do harm to their home.
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Robbboy, Verying good synopsis! As I told the original poster, I had a similar thread I wanted to post. I've often wondered, when is a good time to stay and when is a good time to leave? I've found myself "tennis-balling" (back-n-forth) about the issue. There was a time I was soooooo set in my ways and offered no room for forgiveness. But now, I'm not so sure if I would leave under the same cirmcumstances should they present themselves. I'm more tolerable in some areas, but less patient in others.
An example would be should everyone leave their spouse if infidelity is involved? Back in the day - I would. No questions asked. But NOW, I'm not so sure. I have a lot invested now, (namely this is the first time I've
EVER been in love). That's one avenue but there are many others which make me more apt to "work it out". And it would depend on the circumstances surrounding the infidelity. Am I saying that I or others should be a blind door mat and let their spouses walk all over them and do what the hell they please. Hell no! But sometimes, just maybe, somethings are worth working on. Plus we are so quick to say what we would/wouldn't do in a situation. Bottom line: No one really knows what they will/wouldn't do
until they are faced with said situation.