[Nyela]

Originally Posted by Sumyr

I too (a while ago) had a thread deleted (actually it was merged with another thread that was already started). I didn’t take offense to this as I should have done a search and saw that the topic I wanted to discuss was already in progress. I didn’t know what had happended at first so I asked and Corals advised me. I thanked her, apologized, and moved on and learned the rules of the site. Every since then, things have gone smoothly and I haven’t had any problems with any moderators as I RESPECTED THE RULES. That’s all you can do really as these rules were in place long before any of us arrived here and are what makes this site #1 (from recent findings).

lol...yep. I also have had to apologize to Corals for a posting violation. I caught myself the first time I did it, the second time I didn't realize it. So when Corals handled her business, I just laughed at my stupid mistake and told her I didn't intend violate the rules. I asked her to accept my apology. She was very gracious. No problems since.

Incidentally, my issues with all of this are our quick tempers and poor conflict resolution abilities. How can we declare we are at war? Daily we engage in discussions regarding solutions to the ills that plague our communities and yet we can't even disagree without cutting and running? When other races disagree with us, we argue our positions ad nauseum. Nothing would cause us to quit and run. When embroiled in a difference of opinion with our own, we spew negativism, harsh character assassinations and broad generalizations. Why?
In order to effect change; patience, long suffering and a willingness to STAND AGAINST and IN THE FACE OF the opposed is paramount. If we have a disagreement, why can't we learn the art of "choosing our battles" and move on without our worlds imploding?
For many of us, our own character and personality weaknesses are the "elephants in the room" that we must first address before we can assist others to a place of victory.