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"I still say something isn't quite right about this..."
I agree with both Sumyr and Deondra...I smell a kettle of stinking fish.
Alright, I'm going to keep it real here. From my standpoint, whether anyone will openly admit it or not? Sistas have the biggest "power struggles" with other sistas" from "quiet" to outright "acting a fool." And yes, this can even spill over into sexual competition as well if there are men in the mix. I've been in the trenches folks and I've seen it all. Discernment is a blessing and will save your arse many a day--once you learn how to use it. For there are individuals in workplaces that will not see you as a viable "threat," that is, until you come out of the box on 'em. Just when they think that they may have you pegged...at any rate, in your case you are intelligent, elucidate yourself well and apparently you have quality (or possible) management skills.
Starting to get it now, Nyela?
Many black women STILL have not learned or just outright refuse to learn to "protect" or help to insulate one another in the workplace, especially workplaces that are permeated in institutionalized racism. One of my altruistic traits includes helping another sista to "step up HER game." Other sistas have asked me why are you helping so and so? And I tell them, "because you refuse." Your supervisor may have a case of "one upmanship" under the veneer or guise of that green-eyed monster. Why do I state this? I looked at the time frame that you referenced--you two have known one another for ten years? And in ten years, this sista has not been able to dedeuce if you are a "leader" or a "follower?" Just food for thought, sis.
And why NOT have a sense of cohesiveness with another sista in your workplace? Other races do so, why can't you both? In fact, more "Sista-hood" groups should BE formed in the workplace.
"It is business and it IS personal" Get away from the workplace and just talk--as black women and learn what the expectations are for both of you and go from there. My best.
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