[Mr Gumbo]

Originally Posted by Sumyr

Nyela, Hi Sis! I need to speak the truth to you as I believe that is what you are here for. I haven't been in this exact situation but I've been in a similar situation. Regardless of what has happened you need to focus on damage control. Right now, your superior and subordinates view you as combative and possibly even intimidating. You and I both know you don’t have a problem relaying your thoughts or ideas to others. But that is the way you are coming across to those you work with.

First-things-first, study how others deliver their thoughts and ideas in meetings. Perhaps it is the tone you choose to use when articulating your ideas. Example: The Jones Case should be our top priority. (verses) We need to work on the Jones Case RIGHT now! You get what I’m saying. Don’t approach your superior right now about the situation that occurred; wait a few days. Change your demeanor and don’t let anyone know that you are upset. Come in to work for a few days cheery even and greet everyone with pleasantries……….nice weather, did you watch so-and-so show, what did you have for lunch……..that type thing. This isn’t about “kissing-@ss” but more so saving your own @ss and not coming across as an overly aggressive, hostile employee, which will lead you either in human resources or eventually out the door. And we don’t want either.

Then after you have created a friendly work atmosphere for you and your supervisor approach her with your concerns, but in a pleasant but firm tone. This will let her know you are serious, but you aren’t coming on as overly aggressive. Obviously, she does have some trust and faith in your work skills or she wouldn’t have put you in charge of others. So, salvage what you can of your working relationship, especially if you really like your job and most of your co-workers (nobody likes everyone they work with LOL). Trust me if you even remotely like your job stay and work it out as there “WILL” be problems on other jobs.

Always remember you always want to leave a situation smelling and looking like a rose……..like I know you are. Good luck with this!

Great advice right there.