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Originally Posted by the_truth
How can you get a scorned & insecure woman to trust you?
Women help me out, please! Men, if you know the answer please share! 
It seems like no matter what you do or say, they don't believe you. Not even if you put your hand on a stack of bibles! Always sneaking around to see what you are doing, always checking everything that you say as if it's not true, always looking for the worst in you. 
Someone help me please!  |
Unfortunately, this is one of the harder issues to get someone to recognize and deal with. Until she has reached that point and time, you are going to be the one to carry the weght of her insecurities on your shoulders.
YOU are going to have to keep in mind what she might be thinking or feeling about a particular issue and carry yourself accordingly. You're in for a long hard road, but if she means that much to you it'll be worth it in the end.
Try bringing this to her attention and let her know that it does concern you that she is holding you under the microscope because of past hurts by someone else.
Let her know that it frustrates you and that you're doing ALL that you can to prove yourself worthy of her love and trust. In all honesty, the constant scrutiny has the potential to drive you away or make you feel that you might as well start doing what she wonders about you doing.
Hang in there with her, but if you find yourself being frustrated and stressed more than you are happy and glad to be in love, you might need to explore the possibility of it lasting a little more deeply.
Best Wishes! :)