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Originally Posted by maestrho
I hate to say this, but each time I receive one of the "We miss you" e-mails, I get my hopes up and I come back to read various posts only to be terribly frustrated and disappointed. While I've seen SOME intellectual posts that are based on fact rather than emotion, I find many of the comments by the members to be rather ANTI-intellectual, petty and woefully misguided. Again, I've seen some that are certainly interesting, but many more poorly-written, ill-conceived points outweigh the good and I end up logging off ... until I get the next "We miss you" e-mail. I don't think AfroChat is for me - I hoped it was, I tried to make it work for me, but I just can't get "into" most of the discussions. We don't all have to agree, but to disagree in a disagreeable manner is childish. To get upset whenever someone calls you to the carpet on things that may need improvement also shows a lack of evolution of self. It's OK to hear that sometimes people aren't thrilled by what you've said or done. It's OK to receive criticism, but why must we hurl insults or grow defensive whenever someone says something that might make us uncomfortable? The discomfort typically comes from that place inside you that says, "That point is not entirely wrong." Rather than beat up on or accuse Soy Negra for voicing her opinion (isn't that what this whole site is all about???), let's be introspective and adult enough to recognize that her point is not entirely wrong. Before anyone gets upset with THIS post, by the way, I recognize that not everyone was attacking Soy Negra. I intended this in response to those that I perceived to be hostile to her commentary.
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According to the server logs you've access the site alot, just chose not to post. It's unfair to put the entire site on blast because of a few isolated instances that you disapprove of. Yes, there is a lot of passionate debate, arguments, discussion, and also plenty of light hearted conversation as well. For you to make a handful of posts and render an indictment against an entire community, IMO, puts your credibility in question moreso than those that are the target of your rebuke.
Furthermore, I reviewed the posts and did not see where ANY resident attacked Soy Negra. And if they did, instead of blasting your baseless beef on the open board, why not contact one of the staff and handle it respectfully? To be frank, I view your public airing of this issue to be disingenuous. You are simply using the board to echo your discord, when you barely even participate. The members make the community, so you are indicting yourself.
Give yourself a fair amount of participation before you rush to judgment. You will find that with over 100,000 posts, your assertions are, respectfully, way off base and a slap in the face to all of us that act as adults and dare to actually post good content and participate in the community.
One more suggestion: Start threads that YOU would be interested in discussing. No one's stopping you from opening up some threads on whatever issues or interests you have. Most members here found AfroChat searching for a subject and NOT a messageboard. Yet, in their search results they found us. I'm not going to give up my trade secrets of how we show up so well in search engines, but point is, you were most like brought here because you were searching. Now you are here. Help us build and not destroy.
Are you a builder or destoyer?