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Originally Posted by MsMellow
Hey D, let me ask you a question. What about the people who are here trying to take everything in before actually posting? Are they considered parasites? I mean there's a LOT here to read, take in and catch up on, especially for somebody new. Im speaking from experience and I STILL haven't peeped everything. I've made quite a few posts though, but what about the folks who aren't as gung-ho as I am? Some people are shy, and might need to feel the board and it's members out first. At AO we call them Lookie Lous. They mean you no harm they just like to lurk around and mostly read.
Im just saying, isn't there a possibility that everybody here who doesn't post isn't here for an ulterior motive? I know you said you have ways of knowing but how can you be sure?
Not trying to start any trouble, but just asking.
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Thank you for your post. I joined October 2005, and just started posting this month. The first reason is, after initially finding this community and registering, I forgot how to get back here because I hadn't bookmarked the page, then found it again (accidentally) when using the Google search. After finding it, I came back from time to time and would just read the posts and looked about.
Like you, I STILL haven't seen most of what is here. Also, I have been in other communities where people are attacked viciously for posting something that the attackers didn't agree with. I am not going to be a part of anything where I must be degraded or attacked for my views or beliefs.
I had to first see how people treated each other, and if meanness were a normal all the time kind of thing, was it hopefully not at all, or even just occasionally. I needed to know this before I started adding anything to the posts. This is what I always do when I join a community.
I don't care that people disagree, I just care about how they treat others who do happen to disagree. I'm not into drama and arguing about anything or swapping insults with others. That is not my style and I am accustomed to conducting myself in a manner of respect towards others and I like to be respected in return. Before I'll swap insults, and be a party to an ongoing "feud," or get involved in "flaming," I just ignore the insults and the insulter as well. I'm here to enjoy, relate, relax, release, hopefully share, as well as learn, from the residents of this community.
Attacking a point of view is one thing, but attacking the person is quite a different matter altogether. So, I'm guilty of being here for several months without posting, but I'm not a troll, a parasite, or "pimpee" (Finally, I am a bit shy as well and have to "warm up" before I jump in). My 2 cents and thank you for the opportunity.