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Originally Posted by MrAtlanta
Good single women without children are seemingly hard to find these days, but a GOOD, single woman should never be judged soley on the fact that she has a child or two, because you never know what her circumstances might be. She could be divorced or abandoned by her man, it could be anything. Therefore, I think it's a little short sighted to dismiss a GOOD woman based on this alone without knowing her circumstances.
Now if she's "laying up" with anything that comes knocking at her door, and has SEVERAL children out of wedlock as result of this, I can clearly see your point.
I too want a woman without children, but if I find a GOOD woman with ONE child under the age of 10, then I'll definitely consider dating her or even marrying her. :)
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I see where you are coming from but the reason why i disqualify any woman who has a child is because i am the kind of guy who thinks about the future. I also take my relationships seriously. Any relationship that i could get into now could very well be my final one. I don't want to be anyone's stepdad, no, not at all. I'm 22. The likelihood that any woman in my age group who has a child, was once married is extremely slim. Furthermore stats show that the vast majority of people who have children by the time they are in their early 20's started having sex at thirteen, fourteen
. If i were 40 i would have no problems considering a woman who had a child whilst married or not but whilst i'm still young and fresh, nah. I couldn't handle that. I give too much of myself when i am in a relationship. I wouldn't want to become attached to another man's child, apo ndaramba (that's shona for "oh hell naw" - i refuse). What if that relationship, at no fault of mine came to an end when i had established a bond with the kid? I know i couldn't just move on and forget about the kid. I just can't afford to put myself in that position, emotionally.