[Samoon]

@ Ran-Ran. Well, I must hand it to you as well. Some very good points you've put out there as well as Well-Spoken. There are a LOT of variables in today's society that have had a negative affect on HOW our brothers and sisters perceive and interact with one another. Unfortunately, the negative aspects are becoming more and more omni-present...more emphasis is now placed on TANGENTS and less on one's CHARACTER. It is sad, but the reality is that I, too, know of individuals that predicate "worthiness" on what college(s) did you attend....what do you do...how financially savy are you...from the areas or zip codes that we live in to the type of vehicle we drive to earning potential...and yes, continual Media influence, that is, what the dictums and standard of the day is for MAINSTREAM America. Black people have always been a very feeling, spiritual group of people. And many have moved away from that replacing what was just described as "requirements" for entering committed relationships. Does this mean that an individual is "more evolved?" Not necessarily so in terms of self-exploration and character. Again, the person that treats you well, regardless of whether they are black, blue or green is what should be looked at. Still, I find it a bit amusing that "my preference" has to be broad-casted. Do your business in the manner that you deem fit....quietly. Others will SEE and know. This brotha does hold some valid points. He did mention the area of family, which is very crucial to us in terms of our position in this land. We DO need each other. He has drive and envisions improving the quality and circle of his life, can't knock him for that.
Coupled with this, I'd state for him to look at the "strong STOCK" in the character of the women in his family that he admires. And this just in? They ARE sistas! So, I'd state that apparently these sistas DO exist----and not just inside his family ranks. It is not my contention to "convince" anyone to be or remain where they do not wish to be. But were I to offer unsolicited advice? I'd state as another poster has---go beyond the women that you see at your place of employ. Broaden your horizons and it does not hurt ANYONE to "check ya battery" and continuously look at self and ask am I being the BEST that I can? And more importantly, a good influence in the circle of life? All, be well. :)