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daheel · May 10th, 2006, 04:03 AM

First, I'm not 20. I'm 35.

I remember in '86 when I had such high hopes for love and a family. I'm from the country, and in my neck of the woods, marriage/family was a high goal of mine to mimic the family I had.

7 uncles and aunts. No history of drugs or alcohol in any of them. Worked all their lives and are very responsible. All except 1 married. Only 1 divorce, of which they are trying to reconciliate, which by all signs should be pretty soon.

Grandparents married 2 days after the Pearl Harbor attack. Still alive and never looked back.

Yes, I dated alot in and out of college. Most people..........men and women my age did.

1st kiss in the 1st grade................lost virginity at 17.

Always had a girlfriend. Never had a problem meeting and dating sistas.......until about 5 years ago...........

Self employed.

I've met alot of people from all walks of life. Never had an enemy, except for schoolyard fights in elementary school.

I'm not perfect...............i'm not better than most men, and I dont' claim to be a "good man" as so many are quick to do for themselves. I'm just a man.........a simple one at that with hopes and dreams and a desires to take care of all of my family.............my kids as well as mama, and the rest of my family. I pray for the success and growth of my business in order to do that.

I'm no different than your average brother.

But I am treated as less than by most of the women I meet in my daily work.

My starting this post was not an annoucement but more of a question to get a response as to where did this "looking down your nose" attitude manifest itself in the personality of black women?

Are we that bad and undesirable?

Were you hurt that bad by a former love?

Did you proclaim your love for more than a few men, and now you no longer recognize what it feels like to really be in love?

What is it?

Why the snooping into a brother's background? Should I have the right to investigate your medical history............?.......................Check how many times you have been pregnant?................if you've had an abortion?........................prehaps STD's?................... Would you like someone checking on what you deem as "private" information?

Or has the media informed you so much.........overloading your mind so that it has twisted your thinking?

Have brothers attempted to play the middle too much and have not put enough effort into checking the snobbish attitudes so that we seem "sensitive",attentive to your needs and hopefully more desirable to you? Are we punking out by not speaking up and articulating how what some of us think about this?

Help me with this. I'm open to all opinions.

May 10th, 2006, 04:03 AM	#17 (permalink)
daheel Afro Resident Newbie daheel is offline Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 9 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Rep Power: 0 Credits: 66	First, I'm not 20. I'm 35. I remember in '86 when I had such high hopes for love and a family. I'm from the country, and in my neck of the woods, marriage/family was a high goal of mine to mimic the family I had. 7 uncles and aunts. No history of drugs or alcohol in any of them. Worked all their lives and are very responsible. All except 1 married. Only 1 divorce, of which they are trying to reconciliate, which by all signs should be pretty soon. Grandparents married 2 days after the Pearl Harbor attack. Still alive and never looked back. Yes, I dated alot in and out of college. Most people..........men and women my age did. 1st kiss in the 1st grade................lost virginity at 17. Always had a girlfriend. Never had a problem meeting and dating sistas.......until about 5 years ago........... Self employed. I've met alot of people from all walks of life. Never had an enemy, except for schoolyard fights in elementary school. I'm not perfect...............i'm not better than most men, and I dont' claim to be a "good man" as so many are quick to do for themselves. I'm just a man.........a simple one at that with hopes and dreams and a desires to take care of all of my family.............my kids as well as mama, and the rest of my family. I pray for the success and growth of my business in order to do that. I'm no different than your average brother. But I am treated as less than by most of the women I meet in my daily work. My starting this post was not an annoucement but more of a question to get a response as to where did this "looking down your nose" attitude manifest itself in the personality of black women? Are we that bad and undesirable? Were you hurt that bad by a former love? Did you proclaim your love for more than a few men, and now you no longer recognize what it feels like to really be in love? What is it? Why the snooping into a brother's background? Should I have the right to investigate your medical history............?.......................Check how many times you have been pregnant?................if you've had an abortion?........................prehaps STD's?................... Would you like someone checking on what you deem as "private" information? Or has the media informed you so much.........overloading your mind so that it has twisted your thinking? Have brothers attempted to play the middle too much and have not put enough effort into checking the snobbish attitudes so that we seem "sensitive",attentive to your needs and hopefully more desirable to you? Are we punking out by not speaking up and articulating how what some of us think about this? Help me with this. I'm open to all opinions.