[Samoon]

Originally Posted by Jackson

A negative frame of mind is a magnet for unsavoury experiences. If you are going to give up on all black women, that means that it is time for you to ask yourself what it is about you, which draws such horrible women to your side. Chances are that the unresolved problematic issue which lies within you as an individual will ensure that when you start dating non black women, the grass on the other side will not be any greener. There is no way that all black women can be wrong and you alone can be right. Just think about that for a moment.

"Water seeks it's own level."

I agree with this poster. I'm presenting this as rational insight. Not a debate and definitely not an argument. Stop. Quit. And stop pointing fingers. If you want to try finding love in another color camp? More power to you. But be true to yourself---don't continue as others have to drop the SAME anchor out of the SAME boat lamenting what sistas are---or not. Why? Because you just might find yourself singing the soliloquies again and again as you've illustrated on this board. Your personal feelings--are that. But a public service announcement is not necessary. Do you--as you see it. The way of things should be that, if one is treated well, then they will reciprocate. Sometimes...sometimes not. But to "group" or generalize all sistas? Stop it. But if you want something different to happen in YOUR life? DO something different to make it happen. The warring fractions of black males and females have gone on long enough. The number ONE problem is personal accountability between the sexes. Because from both sides of the "war," there is not enough YIELDING going on. Seek FIRST the "spirit-man" in YOU, cultivate YOUR uniqueness. It is akin to a saying, "when the student is READY? The Teacher appears." I don't know where you are at in terms of being strong in YOUR spot? But I will share with you that "bru ha ha'ing" sistas only serves as counter-productive behavior. Which serves no purpose for either sex. Then again, maybe YOU have not been as discerning as you could have in terms of how you "connect" with the sistas that you HAVE met? I don't know, only you can answer this. I do have one question though? You state that, "I am tired of black women looking DOWN on me." What exactly is it that sistas are doing...to you?

At the end of the day? It will be either TRUTH'S or SELF-DECEIT that you lie down with. Because ithese are two key areas that you cannot run away it or mask. For it's reflected in one's character. Be well.