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ohhtobeme · November 23rd, 2004, 01:40 PM

My parents divorced when I was younger and it has a great impact on my life. I just wanted to share some information and thoughts.

Most of the time children are the innocent casualties of a marriage gone amiss. Many young people react to the shock of divorce with anger and uneasiness. They may experience shame, guilt, fear of abandonment, fear of not knowing what is ahead for them, ambivalent feelings about their parents divorcing, and even ambivalent feelings of love and resentment toward their parents. Children of divorce feel that the two most important people in their lives- their father and mother, have disregarded their sense of trust.Young people are usually not prepared for the emotional, physical, and legal work that divorce proceedings entail. They need heartfelt support and a predictable routine in their life activities during this time of disturbance and uncertainty. Adult children of divorce are four times more likely to divorce than young persons from families that have stayed together. Daughters whose parents divorced and remarried face two times the risk of divorce as compared with those living with both parents. Studies have shown that whether the divorce took place early or late in the daughter’s life, her chances for divorce accelerated. This is true of women more than men.

If you are more interested this is a book I recommend Beal and Hochman, Adult Children of Divorce.

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ohhtobeme Afro Resident Resident ohhtobeme is offline Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Cordova outskirt of Memphis, TN Posts: 150 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Rep Power: 0 Credits: 1,227	Children Of Divorce -FYI My parents divorced when I was younger and it has a great impact on my life. I just wanted to share some information and thoughts. Most of the time children are the innocent casualties of a marriage gone amiss. Many young people react to the shock of divorce with anger and uneasiness. They may experience shame, guilt, fear of abandonment, fear of not knowing what is ahead for them, ambivalent feelings about their parents divorcing, and even ambivalent feelings of love and resentment toward their parents. Children of divorce feel that the two most important people in their lives- their father and mother, have disregarded their sense of trust.Young people are usually not prepared for the emotional, physical, and legal work that divorce proceedings entail. They need heartfelt support and a predictable routine in their life activities during this time of disturbance and uncertainty. Adult children of divorce are four times more likely to divorce than young persons from families that have stayed together. Daughters whose parents divorced and remarried face two times the risk of divorce as compared with those living with both parents. Studies have shown that whether the divorce took place early or late in the daughter’s life, her chances for divorce accelerated. This is true of women more than men. If you are more interested this is a book I recommend Beal and Hochman, Adult Children of Divorce.